Post # 1
Hey Bees! I could really use some advice please! 🙂
So I’ve been looking at all the possible venues in my city for a while now and had narrowed it down to about 3 because we either didn’t have the minimum capacity or budget to use the other venues. Well I just found out one of those three increased their prices substantially so that’s off the list. So that leaves two places, one which has horrible family memories attached to it for a lot of my family, and one place I really love and which is really affordable. The problem is that one of my BM’s has said that the place I love is where she wants to get married (before I did), and although she has yet to start planning anything, she has said she wanted to get married next year which is before mine. So I’m really worried that I will look like I’m copying her and worried that she will be upset when she finds out I’m planning my wedding for the same location. I’ve run out of other options of locations but wanted other people’s opinions. Would you be mad if one of your friends had their wedding at the same venue as you? Maybe I’m worrying over nothing but I don’t want to make things awkward for anyone.
Post # 3
First, talk to your bridesmaid! Every wedding is different and even though you might use the same venue, your wedding will have a different feel and flair. So before you stress too much just ask 😉 If she is a friend, she will understand your dilemma and hopefully be accomodating.
Post # 4
Personally, and I don’t mean this to be mean at all, but I think you’re being ridiculous about it. No one is going to think your copying your Bridesmaid or Best Man, every wedding is different in some way! She doesn’t have sole rights to a venue or any other vendor. Would you be this concerned if you were going to use the same cake vendor, photographer, dj? If you really concerned about it, just tell her that this venue is the only one that works in your budget and for your family. If she’s a good friend (which I’m assuming she is since she’s in your wedding and since you’re this concerned) then she will understand why you can’t have it at the other place. Good luck and don’t stress about the small things! =)
Post # 5
Personally I don’t think it’s a big deal. I got married June 20 last year and I had a good friend of mine message me and ask me if I’d mind if she got married June 19 this year at the same place I got married!
I don’t own it. I told her of COURSE i didn’t mind. In fact I thought it was silly she even asked! Yet very sweet of her to do. Plus, chances are you won’t have a HUGE overlap anyways.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s a big deal at all!
Talk to your Bridesmaid or Best Man about it and I am sure she won’t mind and you can go on happily planning your wedding!
Don’t sweat the small stuff!
Post # 7
Thanks for the feedback! I totally agree, normally I wouldn’t really think anything of it, but I had heard her complaining about this other girl who also wanted to get married there and she was annoyed and thought she was doing it to copy her. They aren’t as close though so I think it would be fine if I had mine there. And it’s a year later so it shouldn’t matter. Thanks everyone!
Post # 8
I think so long as you tell her what’s up – not that you’re copying her or trying to steal her ideas – but that it’s the only thing you can afford, then you should be good.
She might be upset but she’s not going to be the ONLY person to get married there. I’d say just make sure not to borrow any of her other ideas. Venue’s can look totally different depending on decor but if you decide on similar flowers and linens then your weddings may look like duplicates.
Post # 9
Talk to your Bridesmaid or Best Man. Tell her that the only other venue in your budget has bad memories attached to it. You can still make your weddings look different with decorations, etc.