Post # 1
I’m planning to get my wedding band and engagement ring soldered together. I called my jeweler yesterday and they said it can be done the same day (yay!). Now here is my question, I was planning to get them soldered a couple days before the wedding. Can I still wear them before our wedding or should I just put them in the box for a couple days? I hate the idea of not wearing my engagement ring, especially in the days leading up to the wedding, but for some reason, it feels kind of wrong to wear it if the band is attached. I’m not a supersticious person, so the bad luck thing doesn’t play into it. I’m not really sure why I’m having such an internal debate about it. Help me decide bees!
Edit: I should add we are leaving for our honeymoon 2 days after the wedding and the jeweler is closed from 30 June until 8 July. Otherwise, I’d wait until after the wedding to have it done. But I don’t want to go on our honeymoon with them not soldered.
Post # 3
i personally would wait until after the wedding to have them soldered. i’d feel weird wearing my wedding ring before i was married.
Post # 4
I would most likely wait until after the wedding (especially since they can have it done the same day), but, if you really don’t want to wait, I don’t think it’s a huge deal. I would feel a little weird about it, but it wouldn’t necessarily stop me.
Post # 5
I’d wait til after the wedding, especially if it only takes one day.
I’d say do it the day before so your finger isn’t naked for long, but I’d probably be way to paranoid about something going wrong at that point
Post # 7
I posted a thread about this a couple of months ago. You can see what people thought here.
Some think it’s bad luck. I was going to wear mine but I ended up not being able to because the jeweler kept messing it up. I didn’t have it back until the day before we left. I wore a stand in at first but then I stopped caring and didn’t wear anything lol. I’m glad I sent it off before and early because otherwise, I would have went without my ring for 2 months after the wedding.
Post # 8
I would probably wait to get them soldered until after my honeymoon. If you really don’t want to do that, do it as close to the wedding as possible and just wait to wear it.
Post # 9
I had this same debate, but with Fiance. He was super against the idea of doing it before the wedding. He didn’t want me wearing my band until we are married. And he especially didn’t want me to be without my engagement ring the days leading up to the wedding. So, I’m waiting till after.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t wear it before the wedding. If you’re doing it a couple of days before, I don’t think it’s a big deal to not wear the engagement ring.
Post # 11
I had mine soddered before the wedding. I wore my great grandmother’s diamond in place of my engagement ring. Then it was all ready to rock and roll for the honeymoon! Though I kept it in the safe a lot of the time because I didn’t want to wear it in the ocean.
Post # 12
I’d probably have it done before the wedding because I’d definitely want to have it on my honeymoon. I don’t think something so silly would be bad luck. I wear my wedding band around the house all the time LOL.
Post # 13
traditionally it’s bad luck to wear your wedding ring before you’re actually married. in modern times, it’s just weird to wear a wedding band when you’re not married.
Post # 14
I will be getting mine soldered together because I have 2 wedding bands. They have a curve to them and do not have diamonds all the way around. So for me to wear the set without it being soldered together, I would be constantly adjusting the three rings to they are straight. I plan to go the week of the wedding, and then put them in a box until the big day, only because they will be cleaned and I don’t want them getting dirty.
Post # 15
Dont do it, he puts the wedding band on in the ceremony, its the first time you wear it, its special, end of story.
Post # 16
I would do it after the honeymoon then. During the ceremony, it is a special thing to have your ring slipped on your finger for the first time, so unless you plan on doing it now, but not wearing your set until your FH puts it on your finger, I think you are taking away a special moment for you and your FH.