Is this a bridal shower or a housewarming party for her?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Member
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would just politely tell her that you’ve decided to stick to your guns and not have a shower or whatever she’s trying to call it.

I bet one of your other friends will step in and throw a dinner party or something for you.  It sounds like she has another agenda

Post # 4
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@skippydarling:  Oh goodness. The liberties people take when weddings are involved.

I would politely tell her that you are not okay with removing those people from the list. If she is not able to accommodate them then you will have to back out of the shower.

Post # 5
Member
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Oh no, I’d definitely tell her “thanks, but no thanks”!

Post # 6
Member
2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Graciously decline.

Post # 7
Member
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would just call it off, tell her you’d really rather not have a shower.  It sounds like the event isn’t really a shower anyways since she’s inviting people you don’t know, more like she’s just having a party but attaching your name to it.

Post # 8
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6960 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@skippydarling:  Too much drama. If you’re trying to save her feelings I would say something like “I totally don’t want you to cram your house full of people but at the same time, I can’t invite A&B but exclude C&D… so maybe it’s best to go back to the original plan of not having one”. Then stick to your guns. Showers are supposed to be fun for the Bride. If it’s just going to cause more stress/drama for you skip it! Or hell, invite all your girlfriends to lunch if you want to spend time with them. No one can tell you you can’t invite some people to a restaurant because they don’t like them. 😛 Stupid nonsense. 

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