Post # 1
So, my fiance and I are going to my best friend’s brother’s wedding. Or it seems as such. I’ve known her brother as long as I’ve known her (13 years?) but have never been friends with him, and I’ve met his fiance a few times and she’s nice, but we’re not friends per se…so I guess, they’re nice people, but we’re not like, friends. I think they’re inviting us largely because they’re holding the wedding in NYC where we live…plus my fiance and her brother always seem to get along.
All that being said…I don’t know them super well in regards to finding a personal gift to give them. I really like to try and make sure the presents I give are personal in some way…not just something generic like off a registry. So, my thought for a present would be to give a small registry item, and maybe a painting? I like to watercolor, and I think I’m pretty okay at it. So I was thinking doing a watercolor painting of them plus a registry gift? But I don’t know how people feel about getting paintings…like, is it cool or just kind of something you get and hide in the closet?
I know the logical thing would be to ask my friend what they would think, but I also gave her and her now husband a painting as an engagement present (I had actually made it prior to their engagement and it became one). So I don’t want to put her in an uncomfortable position of having to say it’s not nice.
Sorry this ended up being so long…any feedback would be appreciated. 🙂
Post # 3
Hmm, artwork is hard because it is SO personal. I would hate for you to put in time and effort to make a gorgeous painting that never gets hung up because it is not the couple’s taste.
Since you don’t know the couple that well I would just stick to a nice registry gift and save the more personal gifts for your close friends.
Post # 4
I would love to get a painting as a present. My fi got us drawn by a comic artist and it’s amazing. It’s framed and hanging in our living room and gets many comments. It would be very special to me to get such a personal gift. 😀
Post # 5
in the most unrude way possible if you have a talent a true talent for painting then this would be an excellent idea. Of course beauty is in the eye of the beholder but one can usually tell when someone doesnt know what they are doing…especially with a portrait. With that being said as long as yyou are confidant in your work this would be a lovely gift!
Post # 6
I think the sentiment is very thoughtful, but I’m going to have to agree with @babyboo and say that you might be better to stick with something off the registry or a monetary gift since you don’t know the couple that well.
Post # 7
If you want to paint them something, my best advice would be to ask them what kinds of colors they like to decorate with and go by that. Otherwise, it probably will get relegated to a closet. But if you make something thoughtful and coordinated with their colors, I’m sure they’ll like it.
Post # 8
I don’t think that giving one of your paintins is cheesy or dumb at ALL–but I do think that it may be a tad bit too personal ONLY becuase you said you aren’t really friends of the couple. I would think just give them a monetary gift and/or gift off the registry.
Post # 9
It’s very thoughtful of you to want to personalize their gift and give them something as cool as artwork – but in this case, as the PP have said, I’d stick to a registry or monetary gift.
Post # 10
I would love a gift like that!
Post # 11
Thank you everyone for your feedback! I’m going to think about it…and then also maybe talk to my friend. 🙂 I appreciate all the opinions!
Post # 12
I would go off the registry. The registry is items they picked out and want, we put a lot of thought into what we put on ours. Its stuff we REALLY want.
Post # 13
I’d stick with the registry – those gifts ARE personal because the couple has put a lot of time and effort into picking out exactly what they want and what will go in their home and tastes. If you really want to make it your own and not strictly registry, get a registry gift and then things that go with it. For example, you could get wine glasses (assuming they have that on the registry) then pair it with a nice bottle of wine or two and a fun wine stopper. This idea could be tailored to any gift from their registry – pick some fun things yourself that goes with a registry gift you purchase.
As to the painting – personally, I would never hang up a potrait of me and DH as artwork of people in general is just not my style (no matter how amazing it may or may not be). Watercolor of anything is also not DH’s and my style. Artwork and home decor in general is just so personal that unless you know the people REALLY well (which you obviously don’t), it’s definitely an area to steer clear of.
Post # 14
i’d go off the registry. Kind idea, but risky.
I feel bad but we got a couple paintings that we didn’t like (although acknowledged it was a nice thought) and they now just sit in the spare bedroom on the floor. Both husband and I feel too guilty to throw away but also don’t like them enough to hang them.
people choose a registry because that’s what THEY want. And it’s THEIR wedding.
Post # 15
p.s if you ask her, guarentee she’ll say ‘oh that would be lovely’ but this doesn’t mean she actually means it.. i hear people at work constantly talkign about this sort of thing.