Post # 1
Okay, So I am not pregnant or trying yet, but when I Imagine myself having an infant ( biological or even adopted) I have this nagging fear of crushing or dropping the baby. Not random but in specific instances, like a late night feeding- accidentally falling asleep in the rocking chair and letting go of the hold while sleeping. Or if you let the baby sleep in your bed, I fear I would roll over and suffocate it.
I get the impression that motherhood is very tiring and there are plenty of opportunities to doze off or zone out- but maybe perhaps mothering instict kicks in, and you would never fall asleep while holding the baby?
Thoughts? Real life experiences?
Post # 3
@Eva Peron:You’re like me!! I’m really far away from TTC, but I have these totally irrational fears about babies.
While caring for a child will definitely not be easy, I think you’re love for the child will make a very wonderful mother who will not zone out or drop her child. 🙂
Post # 4
After I had Cecilia, I had these horrible recurring images of dropping her down stairs or accidentally smashing her head. I don’t think it was post-partum spectrum or anything but just normal mama fears. They subsided when I was more comfortable with my new role. The reality is that unless you are impaired from drinking or something, you’ll be hypervigilant about the baby, even while asleep!
Post # 5
@HawaiiBamaBride: Glad to see I’m not alone! Great points!
@Mrs. DG: Thank you for sharing! I can see how the hyper-vigilance comes into play, that makes sense!
Post # 6
Those are actually very common fears and dreams. It’s just the way our minds deal with the anxieties of the unknown.
Post # 7
@Mrs. DG: I had the exact same nightmares! We have bench weight set in our room, and I had these horrible visions of accidentally smashing her head into the end of the weight bar. Eventually, it got better, and probably around 6 months, they went away altogether.
Post # 8
I agree with @Mrs. DG: When we would babysit my goddaughter in the beginning she slept in bed with us since that was what she was used to until we got her a place to sleep. I was constantly aware of her every move all night long and she was not even my child…lol. if DH got too close to her since she slept inbewtween us then I would stop him from moving.
Post # 9
I DO THAT TOO!!
I’m glad it’s not just me with the terrible “wouldn’t it be awful if THIS happened” visions. One of my obsessive fears is of getting DS too close to the ceiling fan.
Post # 10
OMG I have that fear too!! In fact, I just had a dream last night where I was holding a baby (presumably my baby) and I dropped him and had to rush to the hospital. I have this fear all the time when I think about having babies, and I’m not even pregnant or TTC yet.