Is this a legitimate invitation to a wedding for my fiancé?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you feel comfortable accepting this invitation for your fiancé?
    Yes - he may only be invited because she feels obliged, but he is invited so he can go! : (12 votes)
    63 %
    Yes- I don't think she doesn't want him, I would feel comfortable taking him : (7 votes)
    37 %
    No - he is only invited because she feels that she is obliged to, therefore you should say no : (0 votes)
    No- he should not. attend a wedding of two people he doesn't know just because he's your fiancé : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    7019 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @polly-pocket:  No you’re overthinking it. She is not saying she doesn’t want him to come. I think she was saying she understands if he doesn’t come. In other words, it’s ok either way.

    But since he’s invited, I think it’d be nice if he went. He’s obviously welcome there.

    p.s. And if he never was invited, there would have been no problem you going alone. My DH was invited to a wedding without me when we were engaged. He went, and we both survived.

    Post # 5
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I think you should be fine going together. I obviously don’t know your friend, but this sounds very close to something I would do wherein I backtrack out of ‘over’ concern for the person I am speaking with. She probably invited him and then didn’t want you to think it was weird she invited him, and give him an out so he wouldn’t feel obliged to attend.

    Texting is always weird and things get confused. You probably wouldn’t have given it a second thought if she had said it to you in person. If you still feel weird about it in a few days, meet up with her and have a chat. 

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