Post # 16
I’m not TTC but I will next year; this whole thing sounds so crazy to me. Why would your OPK determine whether you have sex? Shouldn’t you just want to? So you’ve only been having sex when you think you’re ovulating each month? And you’ve been incorrect, so you’ve never had sex when you were actually ovulating? Like to actually have an option in your poll that says “no don’t have sex”. Yikes. Is it just me or is this just an entirely unhealthy way to view sex in a relationship. I am all for making sure you hit your lucky days but… I don’t know.
I just don’t get. It just doesn’t seem like a fun way to live. Love some perspective.
Post # 17
alex313 : I agree, I don’t understand all this Trying to Conceive stuff. Especially when you’re brand new to starting to try. I get maybe starting to chart or temp or plan if it’s been like 6 months and you’re still not pregnant but why not just have sex as often as you want to and just enjoy the process of making love and making a baby? Especially in the beginning.
I’m getting my iud removed at the end of this year and we’re just gonna have sex like normal and hopefully have a baby. If we get to a stage where it’s been months of unprotected sex but no baby yet, then I’ll start looking into things like this. But I think this sucks the joy out of it? A little?
The obession over all this tracking and apps etc confuses me too. I’d love to be enlightened if I’m way off the mark.
Post # 18
alex313 : tillymac : It’s not about wanting to or not, and obviously neither of you have personal experience with this. Conceiving is all about timing, and you aren’t going to get pregnant easily if you don’t pay attention to when you’re ovulating and the timing of sex around that event. For what it’s worth, we time sex AND have sex at other times of the month AND enjoy it everytime. I think that’s all very healthy. You might be surprised by your mindset once you actually begin trying and realize how complicated it can be!
Post # 19
Why would your OPK determine whether you have sex? Because a positive OPK means you have a good chance of being able to get pregnant.
I agree with PP AORIVER15…It doesn’t mean OP is ONLY having sex with her husband when she has a positive OPK…jesus. Also, I don’t know OP at all nor have I seen any PP’s but you don’t know how long they’ve been trying. Not everyone gets pregnant right away. It’s good to OPK so you know specifically when to have sex in order to get pregnant.
I think you’re both way off base for judging OP’s sex life based on this post…sheesh!
Post # 20
So maybe this is all just lost on me. The majority of my friends with children had unplanned babies. I know it’s complicated for some but to go right into things with this mindset that it’s gonna be difficult surely only adds stress to something that is meant to be natural and normal?
Post # 21
tillymac : Testing for ovulation isn’t assuming things will be difficult. Certainly there are unplanned pregnancies all the time but there are also many couples who struggle, and I don’t feel like just doing whatever for 6 months and hoping it works. I started using OPKs right away because we wanted the best chance, and had I not been testing I wouldn’t have known when I ovulated, especially not knowing what to expect coming off the pill. I’m 30 years old and if I can up my chances of getting pregnant sooner I’m going to do that.
Post # 22
Hello all! I would like to proclaim first and foremost that I do have sex with my husband other than periods of fertility! LOL!
Also, as far as tracking fertility through OPKs, I found that it was super important for me. We are often told that we ovulate on Day 14 and as most of us know, that may not be true for you. The apps do not help, either, as they assume the “28 day cycle, ovulate on day 14” myth that has lead to unintended pregnancies as well as missed opportunities for couples trying to concieve. This month, my fertile window was predicted to be July 7-12, with ovulation on July 11th. Well the OPK showed the surge on July 5 and my app recalculated my fertile period to be July 3-7 with ovulation on July 6. Ovuation was confirmed with temp dip, then rise. That OPK can make all the difference in whether you can catch the egg or not. Luckily we BD’d every day anyway, so we were in a good spot when the app changed our dates.
I am now 11DPO with AF due on Friday or Saturday, which is when I will test. I am in no hurry to test and will continue to monitor my temps throughout the week. It appears my chart has taken on a triphasic pattern (I have 3 days of temps are higher than my post O temps following a dip at 6-7 DPO), but we all know that means nothing. I had bad cramping and spoting on Saturday at 9DPO, but again, that means nothing until a positive test. I am just going to relax, be easy and enjoy the journey.