Post # 1
I haven’t officially asked anyone to be my bridesmaid. I’ve asked my MOH a looong time ago but we decided to hold off naming the bridesmaids and groomsmen until December or so. We were advised to wait a while as relationships may change over some time.
We pretty much know who to ask and it really is only a matter of asking. As far as BM dresses, how long did you have to wait until they were ready? Most shops are telling me I have lots of time before I have to order dresses. Is this true?
Post # 3
I would advise AGAINST waiting until December if your wedding is in June. You need to allow at least 4 months for the dresses to come in (unless you are getting them at J Crew or something) and you want to give the girls some time to budget (dress, shoes, parties, gifts) and have alterations done. I would say October…unless you have established friends that will have the cash readily available for all the costs associated with being a BM or you are footing the bill for everything. I told my girls in Oct, there dresses had to be ordered by 12/1, my shower was in April, my wedding was in May.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Ask now. Why not? It makes sense to wait a little while to ask people, but if you’re less than a year out I think you’re safe. You can ask people before you need to order dresses; doesn’t need to be contemporaneous.
Post # 5
Yeah it was advise I received from my FSIL because she had some major drama going on with her BMs. It was one of those things were the dresses were bought and ready months before the wedding and kicking people off the bridal party wasn’t an option. I really just didn’t want to run into those issue.
As far as giving them time to budget, FI and I will be footing the bill for dresses and shoes so I guess it’s one of the reasons why I thought I had more time to ask.
Post # 6
Relationships really do change, especially around weddings – just take a look around the boards! I’d wait and be safe.
Post # 7
I asked my MOH & bridesmaids at the end of July and my wedding is at the beginning of April. I decided to go with Davids Bridal just because it was the easiest since my bridesmaids live in a couple different states. They were told that their dresses would take 3 months to come in and they ended up only taking 4 weeks. But still, it’s not worth risking missing a piece… or getting the wrong color (which happened to me…they sent my MOH’s wrap in the wrong color). Plus alterations take another few weeks. My MOH was thankful for the time to be able to plan our Vegas bachelorette getaway. 🙂
Post # 8
I wouldn’t wait until December. I’d at least ask them in October/November. That way, it’ll give them time to order their dresses and figure out their own budget.
Post # 9
Great timing – Martha Stewart wedding blog had something on this today! They said 6 months is plenty of time. Here’s the article…
Post # 10
We’re ordering bridesmaids dresses around Christmastime for my wedding in June. DB said it could take up to 12 weeks if something is on backorder and I don’t want to take any chances. Plus I figure no one would change their minds in a period of a couple of months.
Post # 11
i was told 6 months prior to the wedding, but I ordered them in March and they came in July- wedding is Sept. 26