Post # 1
First, it is important to know that I am planning this wedding from a distance so every trip I make (about 6 hour drive) means that I have to cram in as much as I can….
My first appointment with the florist was cancelled – problem with her cooler and she couldn’t deal with meeting with me…had to reschedule for months later….meeting consisted of me talking to her and showing her my inspiration pics (couldn’t we have done this in a coffee shop or something?)
Second appointment was also cancelled – was able to reschedule later in the week (luckily it was an extended visit). She said she didn’t have my flowers in stock because of mother’s day – this appointment was for her to show me the samples.
I’ve already paid the deposit. My Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor think I should dump her and find another. My brain can’t take it – I just want things to be simple. But I also don’t want the florist to flake on the day of my wedding. What would others do?
Post # 3
@envirobride: Have you read any reviews on her service?
Personally, if the florist seemed all over the place, flaky, etc. from the beginning, I would look for another florist. The last thing you need on your wedding day is worrying about whether or not the flowers you paid a ton of money for are even going to make it in time due to your past negative experiences with her.
Is her work unique/one-of-a-kind to the point that you wouldn’t be willing to find another? Or, would you consider her replaceable? If you can find another florist in that same price range that can do what you want, I would suggest finding another florist.
Post # 4
thanks @ jbrunelle. She was recommended by someone which is why I picked her. There are only two florists in the town and the other was emphatically not recommended. Nothing I’m getting is terribly unique. If I dump her, I have to look at least 20 min out of this town, which is maybe not a big deal. I did walk into another place this week and they wanted $50 just to talk to me. I guess I hate the idea of losing my deposit.
Post # 5
@envirobride: In that case, I would search around to see what you can find. Definitely don’t pay to meet with a florist. That is crap! But wait to dump the florist you have, until you find another one that seems to be reliable and that charges the same.
Do you mind me asking how much your deposit was? If it was a lot and not worth losing, you could always have an open discussion with your current florist to tell her how you feel. Is she aware of the fact that you are driving so far to meet with her?
Post # 6
why did you choose her in the first place? recommended? regular customer? good work? price?
you will need to decide if she will be committed to your wedding.
i know what you mean about planning from a distance. i did it too. i made telephone appointments with my vendors. as for the florist, i emailed her pictures that i liked and a list of what i needed prior to our set time, that way, we could discuss if all would fit into my budget. i knew my florist (just professionally) and trusted that she would do a good job. you may be able to accomplish a lot with a phone appointment and it will save you travelling.
Post # 7
Hi, I basically chose her because she was in the same town and it seemed easier. Someone that lives there told me that she did a good job on a wedding that they had gone to. She is aware that I am at a distance. The deposit was $100. Not enough to break the bank, but still significant to me. She is not the cheapest but seemed nice and willing to work with my budget and was good at saying what would work and what wouldn’t during our consultation. I guess I’ll have a frank talk with her and then decide from there. I think I’m maybe too much of a softie…