- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I don’t know if I’m reading too much into this, so I’m going to start from the very beginning and I’m going to try to keep it short and sweet.
A male friend of mine and his girlfriend (now wife) were insistent on setting me up with one of their friends. I was wary but accepted and I went over to their place to meet him. We met, we hit it off and we’re getting married in October. Wee!
Now, after we started dating we noticed these folks that introduced us started to ignore us after awhile. We were a new couple and we made plans to go out on weekends whereas they would call the night before to see if HE wanted to go over to their house for games and food. He declined because we already made plans. Then they kind of stopped after awhile. I was a little upset because they had been good friends and I would send e-mails to them saying we should get something going at some point, a party, a gathering for friends and fun, all that crap. Anyway, I never heard back any of the times I e-mailed.
That same year, they actually invited us to a party in mid november, which we happily accepted because we missed hanging out with them. Well turns out they got married 4 months before. I was a little startled by this news but my now fiance was hurt–he considered them very good friends and they considered him to be like a son to them (they are significantly older than us). So needless to say, his feelings were hurt and then we went a few more months without hearing from them despite our efforts to make plans.
My fiance gets invited a few times out with them for games and such and he does accept because he doesn’t want to cause problems–however, I’m not invitied, not on any of those occasions (like 3).
SO, let’s fast forward to present day, shall we? We intend on inviting them to the wedding along with this other woman who was close-knit in the group. Shower invites were sent out but we haven’t heard anything (but we haven’t heard much from anyone at this point AND my fiance will actually be there with me opening gifts and all that) but lo and behold, the woman who is close friends with the folks who hooked us up, calls my fiance and wants him to accompany her to a surprise party for the wife of my friend.
He is going and told me about it and once again I’m the outcast. I really don’t understand what I did. And what makes matters worse is that I had just e-mailed them like a week ago filling them in with information about my fiance’s mom, the wedding and so on, and didn’t get a response.
I mean they are acting like this and we are inviting them to our wedding! I’m just so confused on what is going on, but this party is tonight so I suppose I will find out more by the time he gets back as to the reason why I feel like I’m being snubbed.
Any advice? Sorry for the long-winded post, but it’s hard to get everything out, and there are things that I didn’t even get to mention! This is so depressing and I’m stressing over this when I should be stressing over other things, sheesh. Thanks, bees!