Post # 1
I am a MOH for my sister and want to get some opinions about this gift idea. She has 11 people in her wedding party that would all be contributing.
Where I am from it is the norm for the bridesmaids to all go into a gift together for the bridal shower. I was thinking of everyone chipping in to buy her a gift from her registry but then also contributing cash to a honeymoon fund. I was thinking of putting the cash in a jar and make a cute label saying “honeymoon spending money.”
I know all the girls would be open to putting the money in, but just want to get people’s opinions about the actual idea!!
Post # 2
I don’t think that’s tacky at all! That’s a very thoughtful and cute way to get some cash for the bride. It can be tricky as a soon-to-be-married couple to ask for money without being tacky, but if the bridal party and family ask for them it works out perfectly! Especially if it’s cute or made into a game!
Post # 3
I agree with PP , I think that’s cute!
(But I expect the people who think cash as a gift, or honey funds are tacky, will prob think that’s tacky…)
Post # 4
nutmeg5512: I love the idea. My MOH gave me a handmade piece of pottery and called it a “travelling fund” where we can put cash into it to save for trips. She put my first $20 in there. I thought it was super sweet!
Post # 5
nutmeg5512: I think it’s cute! Just make sure it’s not out so people don’t think they should contribute money to it as well.
Post # 6
I think it’s a cute gift! As long as the girls want to do it.
I wouldn’t set it out at the shower or anything, that’s tacky, but it sounds like you’re contributing to it as your collective gift and that’s nice 🙂
Post # 7
If everyone is on board, then that’s great and a fantastic gift, but I think it might be better if you get her a nice card together and give one check or large bills in cash instead of cash in a jar. The jar will probably get thrown away after a while and if you put a few big bills in a jar it will look lonely, but if you fill the jar with a pile of $10’s to make it look full, then she’ll have a huge pile of small bills which is kind of annoying.
Post # 8
As long as it is given willingly and not asked for, I think money is ALWAYS an appropriate gift for anything wedding-related. Indeed, I think it is preferred.
Post # 10
I think thats a great idea!! And if you plan on decorating the jar label it vacation fund instead of honeymoon fund because I know, personally, I would keep it. Also a good way of avoiding the small bills/ empty jar delema is fill the jar with hunter green tissue paper and than have the actual money just on the sides where she will see. Just an idea 🙂
Post # 11
I agree with Horseradish; I’d go for a check inside a card than a jar full of cash. I think presenting her with a jar of cash at the shower MIGHT be kind of borderline tacky. Maybe. It might make people feel like they have to contribute to it, or who knows what. I’d play it safe and just write a nice card & stick in a check. A check is easier for her to deal with, anyway.
Post # 12
nutmeg5512: Cash jars, in my opinion, represent an inappropriate form of social pressure, even if they are only used as “packaging” and not explicitly designed and placed to coerce more donations from unsuspecting guests. If you hit up the bridal party for cash (are you prepared to be absolutely cheerful if your guess is incorrect and one of the bridal party does not wish to give for a cash/honeyfund gift?), I would present it as a check in a card, as others have suggested.
Post # 13
I have EXTREMELY sensitive tacky radar, and I think it’s a very sweet idea. Cut a slit in the top of the jar and tape it on, and they can start saving their extra pocket change there until they go away.
I think the check-in-a-card thing is kind of overly proper-stuffy.
obviously, no one should be strong armed to contribute.