(Closed) Is this a tactful enough way to say “don’t bring random peeps to my wedding!”

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Did you address the invites accordingly? Or do a more generic "and guest"?

If the latter, I don’t think you can really do anything about it now.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

So, I’m confused. Did you invite people with a guest? For example, did you invite John Smith + Guest? In that case, you can’t prevent  him from bringing whoever he wants. You gave him a guest, so he should be able to bring who he feels comfortable with.

If you have Mr. & Mrs. Smith…then those two should be the only ones who respond. Granted, they may respond with their kids even though they aren’t invited, but you may have to deal with that on a one off basis.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

“we have reserved “blank number” of seats for you, please let us know if you will be able to attend”

I think this is how Im going to do it, so people get the idea. I saw this on someones invites once, I liked it!

EDIT, this way you can write in whatever you want. 1 or 2 and so on.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

sorry, repeat.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think the “___ seats are reserved in your honor” (with the ___ filled in with the number of people invited) works better.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Jenbee: I wrote my invites like that with the __ of seats and so far it has worked great

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Just curious – why not do RSVP cards and avoid the potential confusion? 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@lergx6: so in this case, was Mr. Smith addressed as “Mr. Smith & guest”?  Becuase then it’s not really up to you who he brings. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

It may be too late, but if I were in your situation I would say something like,

“____ seats have been reserved in your honor.  To RSVP, please call or email at…..”

It’s a little less awkward and shouldn’t take up any more room on your invite (which sounds cool BTW… I love those unfolding envelope ones!)

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not to be mean, but you can’t invite them to bring a guest that you have to approve of. Either you invite them with a guest or not, you don’t have a say on who they bring.

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