Post # 1
We’re having people either call us or use an online form to RSVP for the wedding. I want people to list everyone on their invite but not feel inclined to bring a random not-invited person to the wedding. Does this get that across without being mean or anything? This will be displayed at the top of the form.
Please use this form to RSVP for all the guests on your invitation so we can make sure everyone’s accounted for!!
I can’t decide if it’s too subtle (people will still try to bring random people), too harsh (people will be offended) or just right.
Post # 3
Did you address the invites accordingly? Or do a more generic "and guest"?
If the latter, I don’t think you can really do anything about it now.
Post # 4
So, I’m confused. Did you invite people with a guest? For example, did you invite John Smith + Guest? In that case, you can’t prevent him from bringing whoever he wants. You gave him a guest, so he should be able to bring who he feels comfortable with.
If you have Mr. & Mrs. Smith…then those two should be the only ones who respond. Granted, they may respond with their kids even though they aren’t invited, but you may have to deal with that on a one off basis.
Post # 5
“we have reserved “blank number” of seats for you, please let us know if you will be able to attend”
I think this is how Im going to do it, so people get the idea. I saw this on someones invites once, I liked it!
EDIT, this way you can write in whatever you want. 1 or 2 and so on.
Post # 7
I think the “___ seats are reserved in your honor” (with the ___ filled in with the number of people invited) works better.
Post # 8
@Jenbee: I wrote my invites like that with the __ of seats and so far it has worked great
Post # 9
The invites are just “Mr & Mrs ___” or “The ____ Family” no one’s getting “+ Guest”
The “__ seats have been reserved” sounds nice but there’s not really anywhere for us to say that since there’s no room on the invite and everything else is online or by phone.
Post # 10
Just to clarify: I basically don’t want “Mr. Smith” bringing Mr. Smith’s girlfriend of 2 weeks that no one else knows or anything like that. or “The Smith Family” bringing letting little Jane Smith bring little Betsy Doe so she has a friend to play with.
Post # 11
Just curious – why not do RSVP cards and avoid the potential confusion?
Post # 12
@lergx6: so in this case, was Mr. Smith addressed as “Mr. Smith & guest”? Becuase then it’s not really up to you who he brings.
Post # 13
@M.Ruder: No. Mr. Smith is not being told he can bring a guest. His invite is just to “Mr. Smith.” I’ve heard so many stories about people just assuming that they can bring whoever they want that I’m trying to make it clear without being mean that only people listed on the invites (in the case above, Mr. Smith) are invited to the wedding. No ambiguous guests.
@GirlWithARing: our invites are basically printed on the envelopes, like you take apart the envelope and read the invite, it’s all one piece so it won’t really hold a card very well. :-/ I considered trying to stick on in there but i’m afraid it’d fall out.
Post # 14
It may be too late, but if I were in your situation I would say something like,
“____ seats have been reserved in your honor. To RSVP, please call or email at…..”
It’s a little less awkward and shouldn’t take up any more room on your invite (which sounds cool BTW… I love those unfolding envelope ones!)
Post # 15
Not to be mean, but you can’t invite them to bring a guest that you have to approve of. Either you invite them with a guest or not, you don’t have a say on who they bring.