Post # 1
I’ve noticed there are a lot of posts with ladies having trouble finding a wedding band to wear with their e-ring.
I was looking at settings the last few months because I was having a diamond reset, but I didn’t pay attention to ones that had a matching band because I didn’t need to match it up to a band.
So my question is – is the trend for more e-ring settings to be stand alone rings or to be worn without a band?
I got engaged waaaay back in 1998 and it was around then that many of my friends also got engaged. I don’t remember any of them having trouble finding a matching band for their e-rings. It seems like a lot more sets were around. This will totally sound like I’m dating myself, but my SIL got engaged back in 1991 and her and her husband have a 3 piece matching set – e-ring and wedding band for her, and a wedding band for her husband.
For those of you that picked out your rings, was finding a wedding band part of the consideration for the setting you chose? Do most guys (if they are picking the ring out themselves) not realize that the lady will want to wear a band with their e-ring? I don’t think jewelers are doing enough to point out that certain settings will make it harder to find a band later on.
I feel bad when I see these posts because it seems like some ladies are very upset with the process of finding something to go with their e-rings. I personally don’t like gaps (on me – I have seen some sets where it does work) and it would drive me nuts to not have a matching band.
Maybe I’m just a little to picky about things 🙂
Post # 3
My band is not matching in the sense that it was a set, but when you look at it, it’s almost identical to the shank on my e-ring. I personally wanted it to match, but I do love the look of some ladies’ rings where they don’t match, yet complement each other.
Post # 4
We went the custom route so my rings match exactly. Maybe more rings these days are being sold alone instead of in sets than they used to be? I’m not sure!
Post # 5
When ring shopping I was so excited to get engaged that I never thought of the wedding band to match! And I’m paying for it now because I’m getting my ring reset. I wish the jeweler would have had me try on some sets because it might have changed my decision then!! Not blaming the jeweler, it was my fault, but it would have been helpful!
Post # 6
I think there are a few reasons for this:
1) sets used to be more popular
2) Rings tend to be bigger now, and settings made to accomodate larger stones tend to take up more space on the finger.
3) Halos are really popular now, and a lot of them aren’t elevated.
Post # 7
We went the custom route but the band was not afactor in the designing of the ring.
Post # 8
It’s not just halos that are low set. I have a “Tiffany” style solitaire that is low profile. When I tried on random channel eternity bands, the bands ended up higher than the wedding band. It was clearly meant to go with a cathedral-set engagement ring. Another issue is that split shank rings are very popular right now and many of them have varying thickness or waviness. Another ring that is growing in popularity is low bezel engagement rings.
Since there is SO much variety in engagement ring settings, it’s no wonder manufacturers aren’t making matching sets. However, I have noticed chevron wesding bands are becoming more popular to accommodate low-profile engagement rings. Most jewelers can tell you which wedding bands they have typically get paired with which engagement rings.
We used James Allen for both rings and they had 3 rings in platinum that “match” my engagement ring. If we went with white gold, there would have been 5+ to pick from. Metal choices can also be limiting.
Post # 9
My ring is custom so it doesn’t have a matching band.. which means it’ll most likely have to be custom as well.
Post # 10
I have a solitaire engagement ring with an x-prong setting that tapers at the stone. It was easy to find a diamond band to sit next to it since I was OK with a small gap between the two rings. It’s not completely flush, but it’s close. I like that they weren’t a real “set” and I like that my diamond band contrasts with my solitaire.
Post # 11
I went shopping with my boyfriend (now fiance) for the ring, and although I tried on a bunch of different rings, I didn’t make my final decision until I also found a wedding band that worked with it. He ended up buying them both at the same time. They don’t match (my engagement ring is channel set and my wedding band is pave), but they look good together and don’t have a gap (which was my #1 goal). Mine aren’t custom made, so maybe that’s why it was a bit easier. We just sat at the store and I tried on everything I liked. 🙂
Post # 12
I dont think its a trend to just wear one ring. I think that there is a larger focus on the engagement ring itself and not the wedding ring. Also, engagement rings are extremely intricate and have much more detail then in the past so people have a hard time finding something that suits them.
Post # 13
Mine is an heirloom ring that we combined from both sides of the family. I have honestly never really liked the look of 2 rings on the same finger on anybody. It looks off balance to me. And because some of the beauty of the ring is the scroll work on the sides, I knew from the begining that I wouldn’t have a separate wedding ring. So it was never an issue for me. On my wedding day my ring will go from being an e-ring to being a wedding ring. Magic.
Post # 14
We didn’t even bother looking at the sets when we picked my e-ring. I didn’t want a solitarie diamond ring, or a diamond w-band, and I sure as heck didn’t want only diamonds. Of course we could have picked a ring and then paid more to have some stones changed out, but that just didn’t make sense, I’m very visual and if It’s not already what I’m wanting I can’t picture it becoming what I want. We figured that since my e-ring is so blingy, we would go the plain route for my band, and just go with a simple white gold thin band.
Post # 15
I fell in love with an e-ring that happened to have a matching band available. 🙂
Post # 16
This is my second marriage, and the first time around was in the early 90’s and my ering and wband fit together as a set, which was very typical at the time.
I didn’t really give it much thought when now-DH and I started shopping, and of the 5 styles I shortlisted I believe all but one would have easily accomodated a band, but none of them had an actual matched band. Naturally the one that Darling Husband fell in love that one that was the most difficult.
I think what makes finding the band a challenge is the trend of erings being low to the finger, with wide baskets, halos, and peekaboo diamonds. I’m sure the pendulm will eventually swing back to matched inter-locking sets again too at come point.