Post # 1
I have just been told by my FH’s wonderful grandmother that since this is her grandsons first wedding she would like to throw a shower for me, despite this being my encore. I was unsure myself as we need nothing, we have been on our own before and now living together for a year but this is important to her. She said that his side will want us to register for those who want to give a gift and not cash. I am pretty uncomfortable with the whole plan but realize the importance that this tradition holds for her family, and it truly is so sweet. The only thing we could really truly use is outside stuff. We are building a deck and have been landscaping the yard which was pretty much a blank slate. The only issue I have is that I feel like this would mean some pretty big ticket items which makes me feel even more uncomfortable. Any suggestions? I am so extremely pracitcal that I am guilt ridden but I want to enjoy all of this for the sake of his family and their well meaning intentions.
Post # 3
I think you’ll end up with many big-ticket items like you said but then you can always add on shovels, rakes, pots, soil, etc to your registry for those who are not planning on choosing expensive items. The options are endless, even for the outdoors.
Post # 4
Have her throw you a garden and tool shower, register at one of the home improvement stores and just enjoy it. Just because it’s your second wedding, doesn’t mean your FI can’t have some of the fun typical 1st wedding things. 🙂 Enjoy it!
Post # 5
A Garden Party shower would be really fun! Register for all things backyard and mix in large and small ticket items…
Post # 6
i think it would be super neat if you did a guys shower you know the same way we get to have showers where we get towels and toasters…guys need tools and BBQ’s since i have been married before and own my own home and Mr love has never been married and until about 6 months ago lived with his mom, he doesnt own his own tools or guy kind of things. i talked to his friends and basically lit that under them. they all thought it would be a great idea
I know that the last thing we need is typical household stuff…but a set of wrenches and a power saw? you betcha and guess what those things run a bit cheaper than the usual stuff women end up getting at showers..
just a thought for you
Post # 7
I think the whole thing is grand, go with it and enjoy. I am getting over my disappointment at NOTHING being done for us before he wedding. A nice couple’s party or bachelorette party would have been thoughtful. Too late now!
Post # 8
Thanks guys, with your posts I found the confidence I needed to enjoy and let go of some of the worries that in the grand scheme of things really don’t matter. I think I will go with the garden/ outdoor theme. Heck even gift cards would come in handy with the deck we are hoping to build! Playing with marital etiquette can be quite entertaining (if things don’t get too stressful) especially when cultural backgrounds are a factor. My background is very Anglo Saxon and my FH is very Italian. Actually having the families together for any event should prove to be very interesting. Thanks again!