Is this an appropriate outfit for a funeral?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Is this funeral appropriate?
    Yes! Go for it. : (19 votes)
    42 %
    No. The sweater is too bright. : (26 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I personally think the sweater is too bright of a colour, if you can find a really deep purple I think that would be better or wearing a dark grey sweater with it.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @sillysillybee:  I think the dress is a little short!  Personally, don’t have a problem with the cardigan.  The immediate family will probably be too grieved to pay attention to your style choices.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @sillysillybee:  I think the burgundy sweater is more appropriate and it would look great with the dress.

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It depends how tall you are… usually models are 5’10,5’11… so that length should be fine if you are.. if you are shorter… better. I think the purple should be OK.. But it all depends on the family customs… ask around… if they are the type of family that will look down on anyone who doesn’t wear black… then change sweaters…

    To me.. it’s OK.

    This is a very delicate subject. I’ve been to funerals where the family gets critized for being fashionable and not look like they’ve been up all night crying. To me this is a little outdated… and it is OK for someone to look nice… you ARE going to be with your Fi’s family after all…

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d say it mostly depends on your area and his family. You don’t have to wear all black, though personally, I would opt for a cardigan in a more subdued, less cheerful color (grey; a darker purple/wine/burgundy; even cream or beige) but then DH would never attend a funeral without a jacket and it sounds like your FI won’t be wearing one, so you might be fine.

    ETA: I think the second cardigan is a much better choice.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @sillysillybee:  I second the burgundy cardigan over the purple one. Also, with tights, the dress is not short at all. You can still be respecftul while wearing ‘normal’ lengths. 

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @sillysillybee:  I think it’s just fine, models are super tall so unless you are also then it wouldn’t be nearly as short. The sweater I think is also fine, but as other pp’s have said you know the family and some are weird about that stuff. When my great grandmother died immediate family wore pieces of black but she was a cheerful fun lady & would have HATED seeing all that black, so I wore a colored cardigan as well over my black dress… BUT my family is very much about mourning at the funeral only, then celebrating the person’s life afterwards with a big potluck & as many stories as you can remember… 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I always thought you were supposed to wear all black/grey to a funeral!

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I agree with PPs. If you actually wear the bright sweater over the vest, especially seated, I think that will totally overtake the black and it will look like you did not observe the ettiquite of wearing black to a funeral.  I’m all about expressing yourself, but it seems like a silly time to me to wear anything that might be questionable.  Though I feel like that’s generally the answer for all of these types of questions (I do it too!)–but the “if you have to ask, it’s probably not the best choice” kind of deal. 

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @sillysillybee:  Sorry, your question was “is this outfit appropriate?” so I think length contributes to the appropriatness of an outfit.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Wear a darker or muted sweater.

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