(Closed) Is this an inappropriate thing to ask a married man to do?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

No, I’m with you, I would be hearing alarm bells all over the place at this one.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

just her and your DH when he has you and she has a boyfriend? Asking the two of you as a double date, I’d be ok with.

Just the two of them out on a hike presumably somewhat not surrounded by people?

 

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllllllllllll no.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

For me, I think heck yeah ( its inappropriate to ask), especially considering your past history with her. I’m not sure why she needs to go hiking alone with a married man without her boyfriend or why you couldn’t go.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Uh, no. Inapprops.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

ah not with my man!

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Yeah, I’m really not a psycho jealous wife but that wouldn’t be okay. Someone who is a close friend, perhaps but why couldn’t I come or her bf? And her behavior other times makes her seem like a less than wonderful friend. I would ask DH to not go alone with her, especially if they have hardly talked in months. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Nope. Nada. Never. No how. This bitch is totally sending off the crushing vibes. You tell your husband that this is not happening.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

No go.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’d expect my partner to shut this one down.  

If it was a mutual friend, or at least a girl who respected you and you didn’t dislike, then yeah! Let the boy go out with a friend and get the dog some exercise.  Maybe invite her over for dinner or go on a double date before she becomes your partner’s close friend. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@pinklemonade12:  Your gut is usually on point…

I’m with you on this one, but mostly because I know that you just can’t trust anyone anymore.. especially other women..!  We know how manipulative/conniving we’re capable of being..

People say “Just as long as you trust your husband.. blah blah”.. Not true!  I could trust my husband to death, but there’s only so much temptation a man can handle.. he’s only human.  We’re all capable of faulting.

I would discuss this with my husband.  But I’d bring it up in such a way to try to get him to see my side.  Turn the tables around and put him in the “What if..?” scenario.  Ask him if he would be bothered if a married guy friend of yours asked you to go on a hike, etc..  I find guys respond pretty well with analogies and such.

Good luck!  Keep a close eye on this wench..!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I DEFINITELY agree with you. Once he became YOUR husband there is a line that is drawn. Not to say that he is not a “free man” and that he shouldn’t be a “allowed” to go, but there is a level of respect that should be there and she is missing that. I’d definitely would have a nasty taste in my mouth when it came to her.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Idk, it depends what kind of girl she is. I kind of picture her as the burping, farting, one-of-the-boys kind, in which case I wouldn’t really feel threatened. The fact that she took your wine, drank it and smeared cake everywhere like a baby does not scream “man-stealing vixen” to me but rather “inconsiderate clutz.” It’s like she’s the female Will Ferrell or something.

The only thing that would bother me is if she is not treating me and DH as a package deal.. not acknowledging my existence or trying to do some things with both of us. That’s kind of what it sounds like she’s doing for whatever reason, and even if there is no attraction there she still needs to respect and acknowledge you. That goes for his male friends too. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Wtf?! I would be so pissed if I were you…

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