Is this awesomely crazy or awesomely sweet?

posted 3 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Chelwilly:  I think it’s wonderful and a very sweet idea 🙂 

Post # 4
7298 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s pretty odd to be renewing your vows after less than a year…but whatever floats your boat.

Post # 5
2878 posts
Sugar bee

@Westwood:  I agree with you.

I believe reuniting his family is a sweet idea, because getting deployed is not an easy process for families (and I know about it from my ex-BIL being deployed in Afghanistan a few years ago, it was quite a hard time for my sister, for his parents, etc.).

But doing a vow renowal less than a year from your wedding ..? I honestly don’t see the point, especially by making it ”formal” with the family and all. I find it odd too. I mean, it doesn’t mean you and your husband can not spend time alone and exchange these words again, because you will be separated while he’s deployed. But that shouldn’t be an ”event” IMO.

I’m editing, and by no means want to scare you, but I believe it would be more meaningful if you would exchange vows, let’s say, a year after he’s come back … it’s not always easy after being deployed, many soldiers go through adaptation problems, depression (when my ex-BIL was deployed they barely slept, ate, etc. during 10 months. He had nightmares and PTSD). I know for a fact that these are very, very common situations in the army, even if soldiers don’t always want to talk about that. So basically, what I’m saying is : you might go through hard times together after he’s back, and it’s love you share that will keep you together. I think after all of this is behind you both, renowing your vows would mean a lot …! 

But as I said, it’s just my opinion … to my, vow renowal when everything is fresh, new and good is pointless … but when things have been tough and the couple succeeds to get through it together, vow renowals are a powerful way to celebrate the victory of love over life’s struggles.

Post # 6
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

How about just a family reunion/going away party?

Post # 7
6220 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

A photographer, a sample dress and a vow renewal seems a bit much, especially when it’s been less than a year since you married. Perhaps there’s a better way to throw a sendoff party that allows others to share the spotlight as well. 

Post # 8
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think it’d be a better idea to do it when he comes back as a surprise for him. saying that your love is still as strong (or stronger) even with his absense.

Post # 10
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think its kind of odd to renew your vows when you havent been married for a year. Especially complete with new wedding dress and photographer. 

Maybe just get some of his family there and surprise him with a nice going away party?

Post # 11
6668 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sorry but I think it is pretty much an look at me celebration of showing off in some sort of wedding dress thing deal.  Just have a reunion/going away party. You just got married kinda silly to have a vow renewal less than a year out 

Post # 12
3596 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah I get having a going away party, but I think it’s odd to revew your vows esp when you had a big wedding. I also don’t get people who do it a year after when they had a big wedding first time around.

But if it makes you happy go for it, although I’m sure you get some raise eyebrows from family and friends.

Post # 14
6220 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

But the dress and other stuff turns it into a mini-wedding.

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