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I dont think it is baby thunder stealing but she will have her hands full for awhile... And your family will be super excited because its your first baby!
How can she steal your thunder when you haven't even announced you have thunder to steal? She can't one up something that she doesn't know.
@Ms Mini: Totally true. I absolutely can't fault her for that.
When I was 7 weeks my cousin announced her pregnancy of 13 weeks and I was admittedly mad about it. It still bothers me a little bit that she 'beat me' to it.
But when the dust settled I realized how cool it will be that our babies will be pretty much the same age growing up: instant good friends when visiting family! I bet eventually you will be so happy to be in the same general baby time as your friend: it's a bit of a dream come true, even though it is her number 2, your kids can be freiends and that is awesome!
@cvbee: You know? That's exactly how I feel. She "beat me" to it. Even though she has no idea! And I'm really excited that our babies will be the same age and that we can do pregnant mom things together. And that's where I've ultimately landed, but I guess I kinda wanted something for myself, especially since she already had her turn with #1.
Awww, you'll get the desired reaction and then some when you announce your pregnancy! Everyone will be just as happy for you :) I've had friends that announce pregnancies "back - to -back" and one wasn't "diminished" at all by the other's. I can see what you mean by feeling that she "beat you to it" but it'll be just as happy news. Congrats!!!
5 weeks from now when you announce your pregnancy, her announcement will already be old news. You will have your time in the spotlight. Then you two can enjoy your pregnancies together. I have a friend who is a month ahead of me right now, and I *love* that she can tell me what to expect in the coming weeks of my pregnancy.
Your babies will be the same age and can grow up together! 
She's pregnant too, and it doesn't matter if it's her first or third, it's still wonderful news that should be shared. I don't think it's about stealing anyone's thunder, it's about sharing it.
Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy!
Huh? She got pregnant first, so she announced it first. I'm very confused as to how that is stealing your thunder. Now let's say you were the one who was 3 months pregnant and about to announce it, and someone else who knew about your surprise chose then to announce their seven week pregnancy. Now THAT would be stealing your thunder. And the biggest reaction will be from family anyways, and this is a friend we're talking about, not a relative.
But I seriously don't get actually making a post titled 'Is this baby thunder stealing'. She doesn't even know you're pregnant, and she is further along than you. No need for the negative outlook on what is a happy event!
like I said, I understand......and I think first trimester hormones don't help the rationality of the situation :)
I don't believe in thunder stealing with babies. Every baby is so exciting!
I had a baby a month before a friend of mine, so of course I got to announce everything a month before her. And I showed up 9 months preggo with my huge belly to her shower. I felt kind of bad about that b/c I didn't want to steal her thunder... but it was her shower and everyone was sooo excited for her! Plus, we got to talk pregnancy all the time, and it was nice to have someone to talk to who was going through the same things.
@pregnantbee: Similiar thing happened to me. My hubby and I were waitng until 12 wks to announce I was pregnant and several weeks before me one of our friends announced she was pregnant - and due a week after me!! At first I was a little sad cuz I was afraid somehow that would make my announcement less special (gotta love those hormones!!) I also think I was a little jealous cuz she was due after me, but was comfortable enough to announce it while we were sitting on pins and needles trying not to say anything.
But now I couldn't be happier - it's so nice to have someone going through the same thing as you are and in no way did it make our announcement any less grand to our friends - and come to find out she is one of 5 of us that are all about to have babies, all within about a week of eachother. Now I just think how awesome it is to be a part of the "pregnant group" 
Don't give yourself too hard of a time for how your feeling, your body is going through so much right now and emotions don't always make sense! But just remind yourself your friend wasn't trying to "steal" anything from you and you're going to really appreciate having someone to talk to in the next few months!
Congrats!
I mean this in the nicest way possible-I think if you are going to be a mother you should not be so petty. And I know the announcement is a big deal to you and your family but people on facebook are going to to "OMG Congrats!" and then forget aoubt it.
There is so much competition and judgement regarding motherhood and we are so bombarded with every kind of parenting style, and what is right what is wrong thanks to the internet. This battle isn't even worth it. When you are up 48 hour straight covered in puke and poo you aren't going to give a crap about what your friend is doing,and you are going to see how dumb this question is, if you even remember you asked it! So put a stop to the competition asap.!! =)
A baby is born somewhere in the world like every 8 seconds. Every day people are being born, dying, getting married, breaking up. Living their lives. The Earth does not stop spinning just because you are pregnant.
Ummm, I don't think I really understand.N or do I understand why people seek attention all the time. Just be happy that you are pregnant, and have a baby along the way, no need to sweat the small stuff.
Anytime you hear someone you love is going to have a baby, it's wonderful news! There's no way one pregnancy would outshine the other. Just be excited for her and happy for yourself, and everyone else will too.
Thanks for all the responses. I now see that my title is totally incorrect and that it's not thunder stealing -- how can it be if she doesn't know? Also, I really am more excited than upset about anything. I'd like to chalk it up to the crazy hormones. So, thanks so much for giving me the reality check that I needed!
@pregnantbee: okay so I see both sides. It's easy to let your excitement feel drowned when she announced it so close to you.
But it is a petty little thing that will mean nothing to you in just a few weeks!
That being said, I do know the feeling. I think it's a natural reaction. I wanted to wait until my first sonogram to announce my pregnancy, which wasn't going to be until 20 weeks. I told all my friends & family after I heart the heartbeat for the first time at 14 weeks, and put it on FB at 20 weeks.
But there was this girl I used to be friends with who put her pregnancy on faceboook when I was 19 weeks (a week before I was going to announce it) and she was only 7 weeks along!! It did irk me, partially because she wasn't even out of the first trimester, and partially because we have hundreds of mutual friends so I felt that even though I was pregnant first, it would turn into, "oh yeah and did you hear so-and-so is pregnant too?!"
It didn't and it's SO not a big deal, but I understand the initial reaction, and like one PP said, combine it with the crazy preggo hormones and it seems a much bigger deal than it really is!
I think us as women naturally feel this competition too, it was there with a bunch of my other friends when all of us started getting engaged, who was engaged first, then whose wedding would be first yada yada - it's immature and stupid but I think it's our nature!
so I understand why, but don't fret over it. It will pass and by the time you announce yours, it will be new news!
@pregnantbee: Well I'm glad you took the reality check and are very excited - congrats on the baby! And I know everyone will be estatic when you do tell them your news =)
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Hi everyone,
Hope you're all doing well, no matter where you are in this crazy process. Not sure how to even ask about it, but here's my situation:
I'm 7 weeks' pregnant with my first child, and my husband and I are waiting until after the first trimester to tell our friends and family. In fact, my health people will not schedule a first ob/gyn appointment until I'm at least 8-10 weeks, so my first appointment isn't for a couple weeks. I have a friend who already has an amazing 15-month-old and who just announced last night on Facebook (!!) that she is 3 months pregnant with baby number 2. How would you feel?
Thanks for opinions and insights!