(Closed) Is This Bad Manners?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
67 posts
Worker bee

Yes that is bad manners.  My Future Sister-In-Law (or the equivalent) was also a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but didn’t help at all with the shower or attend the bachelorette party.  You went above and beyond your expectations, a “thank you” is in order.

Post # 4
2705 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Meh, I wouldn’t read too much into it right now.  Maybe she’ll send you and everyone else who got her something a thank you card.  Now if you don’t hear from her within the next few weeks – then I’d be annoyed and call it poor manners.

Post # 5
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Technically yes, but I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. Probably she was totally overwhelmed with everything going on and “make sure to thank missjewels” is still on her to-do list. Now, if next time you see her she doesn’t say a word about it, THEN you can really get irritated!

Post # 6
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I would guess that she will do a thank you card. I wouldn’t get too upset about not getting a text.

Post # 7
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, it’s rude.

That was so thoughtful of you, though!

Post # 8
12893 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s rude, but maybe she’s just been trying to get back into her groove after the party?  I don’t know, I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt! 

How nice of you to work so hard for her and still send flowers to show you were thinking of her!

Post # 9
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe your thank you card is in the mail? I remember when I was getting married I was pretty stressed and tried to remember everything that everyone did for me, but it didn’t always happen immediately.

Post # 10
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I do feel it’s a little rude, like I’d rather thank a bridesmaid on the spot (text or call) for something like that as opposed to writing a formal thank you in the mail, but I would give her the benefit of the doubt, perhaps there is a thank you card coming. I mean, maybe she won’t thank you at all and then you just know she has bad manners in that arena? You did the right thing and that’s what’s important. 

Post # 11
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would say give it some time. It took a week before I got my thank yous out out to all my bridal shower guests =)


Post # 13
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I wouldn’t worry about it. She probably was wrapped up in bachelorette events and just forgot. 

Post # 14
3303 posts
Sugar bee

She is being rude, my Future Sister-In-Law did the same thing when I couldn’t attend her bachelorette party.

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