Post # 1
I just wrote a post about what to get for my dad, so clearly I have gift-giving on the brain. (Feel free to chime in on that if you’d like.)
But now I’m having concerns about what I’m getting for my bridesmaids. I’ve never been a BM so I’d really like some advice on how you’d feel if a bride gave this to you.
I’m paying for a lot of their stuff but not really getting them a “gift” they can touch/hold. Here is what I’m doing (I have 6 BMs):
Wedding day hair: $75
Pre-wedding mani-pedi: $50
Wedding day breakfast: approx $20
That is $145 right there. I think I might also get them an empty frame with an IOU for a pro pic of me and each girl at the wedding. So let’s say I budget $15 per frame. Now we’re at $160. I know price or whatever shouldn’t matter, but let’s face it, we’re all on a budget here.
I just don’t want to look cheap to my girls because I’m not really getting them an actual “thing.” Does that make sense? Am I worrying about nothing or should I go out and buy some “things” for them?
Post # 3
Personally, I think I’d appreciate the free beauty stuff that you’re giving them more than any “thing”. But adding in the photo frame will be a cute touch. So, I like your plan.
Post # 4
I think that is plenty. Your girls will see all of that beauty stuff as a “gift,” I promise! A frame is a nice way of giving a tangible gift, but please don’t feel you have to do anything else. I’m not sure how you could possibly look cheap to your girls right now. In fact, you’re very generous!
Post # 5
Oh my gosh, that’s a lot of money! I don’t think your girls will be concerned with how much swag you’re getting them (at least they shouldn’t be!). I think its more important that you’re making the weekend enjoyable for them too. Hair, manicure and a pedicure is fun stuff, they’ll love it. The breakfast will be great too. I don’t think you have to go far beyond that. I’d stop at the frames. That’s a sweet idea too, but you don’t want to go overboard! I’d be so happy with those gifts.
Post # 6
I think all of that is more than enough. The money doesn’t cost. They won’t know how much anything costs anyway, unless you leave the tags on 🙂 My girls’ gifts come nowhere near being that expensice, but they will never know the difference. They will love them anyway, because of the thought that went into them.
Post # 7
Whew ok! Thanks SO much. Honestly, I’ve been practically losing sleep over this. Which I know is silly, but I just don’t want anyone mad at me. You girls are the best for calming my fears 🙂
Post # 8
Glad you feel better. Your BMs are lucky to have such a great friend!
Post # 9
I’m thinking of doing the same thing actually. My bridesmaid’s bouquets are $75 each and I’ll pay for their hair as well. I might get them a little something that is tangable like a necklace or something. But, I haven’t really needed any of them to help me with anything wedding related so all they are really doing is buying a dress and throwing me a bacchelorette (which I’m sure will be held at my apartment), and of course showing up for the wedding. It just gets to be too much I think.
Post # 10
I agree with everyone else, those are fantastic gifts!!
Post # 11
I’d rather have my hair/nails done than get some kind of necklace or something I”ll only wear once.
You’re A-OK =]
Post # 12
Maybe this is just me but I don’t think paying for bridesmaid bouquets, hair, makeup count as gifts. That is for YOU because you have a particular look you want on your wedding day.
Post # 13
If you’re a do it yourself-er I would make a Thank you poem or some kind of card and just kind of mention what all you will be pampering them with as a thank you for being such as special part of their wedding (not including any money amount of course).. and include it with the frame….
Post # 14
Thanks for the other opinions, ladies!
MissChirpie, I didn’t even think of the bouquet, too. That’s also $80. I’m also attaching vintage rhinestone brooches to the bouquets that the girls can keep after the wedding.
LGenz, I definitely see your reasoning since I asked the question in the first place, but I guess I see it as “Here is a bunch of stuff that you don’t have to pay for yourself. Yay!” ya know? Plus, I know *they* want to look nice for the wedding (they’re all girlie-types) so this is something they would do even without me asking.
They’ve definitely done a lot for me (traveling, hotel stay, bachelorette party) so I want to thank them properly. Ugh now I’m second-guessing myself.
Post # 15
Em–this is definitely more than enough, especially if you add in the frame and your vintage brooches (which I LOVE, by the way)! I have been a bridesmaid twice…and I would have LOVED having the bride pay for my hair and mani/pedi! Great gifts, girl–no worries there. 🙂