- 7 years ago
Disclaimer: I am a regular poster using a cover identity.
A bit of back story: My FI goes away on business about once per month. He left last night at supper time for another trip. He is very loving, attentive, and shows his appreciation, love, respect and support constantly. He is the type that spends every moment he can with me.
Last night I went to sign in on my computer to FB. Well he had not signed out. So I did what everyone I’m sure considers horrible and checked his messages. He had one from a strange girl that was not his friend.
She had written a lengthy letter telling him how nice it was to talk to him at the bar that night and what a sweet man he seems like. She then proceeds to tell him that she took his advice about a man she was crushing on in the bar that night. How she had approached the guy at my FI’s suggestion and ended up going home with him and having amazing sex. Then she goes on to say that it turns out that the guy had a girlfriend (she found out via FB) and how she was crushed he turned out to be a liar, etc. Her next paragraph was asking him how the rest of his night was and how things went with the girl at the end of the bar he was talking to after her.
This message was sent to him March 20. He had opened it. He has also had messages before it was sent and after, so it’s not like it was at the bottom of the page.
Well I answered this girl back. I told her that this was his FI and if she would be so kind as to explain what she meant by the other girl at the end of the bar. She told me that my FI had never mentioned me, and in fact told her he was single. But she had mentioned in her first message that she enjoyed listening to the story of his life and work. So it isn’t like he was just being quiet.
The girl and I had a few back and fourths and I thanked her for letting me know this. She really doesn’t have any reason to lie and was really apologetic to me for finding out in such a harsh way.
Fast forward to the phone call hours later from my FI:
– He admits to being in the bar. He says he remembers talking to this chick along with others. He says he remembers going home alone and swears up and down he didn’t cheat.
– He doesn’t remember: saying he was single or seeing that FB message from this girl.
So I asked him, what reason on earth could you possibly say you were single to strange girls in a strange city, at a hotel bar, other than to cheat. He said he agreed that there isn’t any other reason. He tells me he loves me more than anything in the world and he would never actually cheat on me.
I don’t think I could ever trust him again.
I will not be seeing him in person for 3 weeks.
What would you do?