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    rawrkitty1022    October 22, 2010   Cincinnati, OH

    My bridal shower is tomorrow and I had a lot more no rsvp's than yes rsvps. Is this common? One of my friends who just backed out of being in my wedding party backed out of coming to the shower tonight and two female relatives who are staying at my house with me for the weekend decided to leave early tomorrow morning instead of staying a few extra hours for the shower (they said they have to work on Monday....the shower is at 1:00 p.m.....come on!!!) I'm really disappointed that a close friend and even my family doesn't care enough to stick around. There will be 10 people at my shower max IF everyone shows. I'm trying to cheer myself up by thinking of the friends who will be there, but I'm just so frusterated and hurt by the actions of my friend and 2 family members. Is it common to have so few people at a shower? I want to cheer up and focus on the good so I can actually enjoy my shower tomorrow instead of being sad. Any ideas to cheer up?

     
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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    I'm sorry everyone is backing out at the last minute! That sucks! At least you know that those who will be there WANT to be there and love you! :D Also, you are not alone! My Bachelorette is next weekend and out of 20 people invited only 2(!!!!) are coming! :_( It'll be less a party and more of a depression for me.

     
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    CaraMia10    October 10, 2010   Loma Linda, CA

    Aw, girls! I'm so sorry you're both going through this. Unfortunately, I'm in the same boat. It really blows me away how many good friends I thought I had but yet none of them can be bothered. I just don't think people have common courtesy these days. Rabbit, you are 100% correct...enjoy your time w/ the people that made the effort and WANT to be there.

     
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    MaggieGirl    October 16, 2010  

    Less than 1/3 of the people I invited to my shower will actually be attending, so I feel your pain!!  I have a hard time not taking it personally, but I know sometimes things come up and not everyone will be able to make it.  I just can't help but feel like I'm very unimportant to many of the people who have decided not to come.  I unfortunately don't have any advice for you to cheer you up.. but you can join my pity party if you'd like!

     
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    MrsJKH2be    October 2010  

    That sucks!  I'm sorry - but think of the quality time you will be able to spend w/ thos you will actually be taking part in your day!

    My mother invited 75 people for my shower - 65 showed up - 90% was family though :o)

     
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    rawrkitty1022    October 22, 2010   Cincinnati, OH

    Thanks for encouragement Rabbit, CaraMia, MaggieGirl and MrsJKH. Maybe it is more common than I thought to have a low turn out for showers and stuff. It sucks that we all feel the same way, but at least it's not just me and it's a pretty common thing. I'm still surprised by the number of people who didn't RSVP at all, or did so days after the deadline. I agree with everything you girls have said. I think a lot of people don't have common courtesy anymore. I've always been very good about prompt rsvps and following through with what I say I will do, but now I will be even more careful about it. And when it comes to things like this and people just decide not to come or to make any effort at all to fit it into their schedule, you do find out who your real true friends are. And I'm so lucky that I have a few friends that love me enough to make the effort to happily be here. Thanks for your encouragement :-)

     

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