Post # 1
At most weddings I’ve been to, they offer “beef or chicken” or “chicken or fish” for dinner. Is it tacky, weird, or otherwise uncool to offer “beef or vegetarian” instead?
To keep costs down, we opted for just two entrees on the buffet. My fiance insisted on Texas beef brisket. And since we have quite a few vegetarian friends, I chose a delicious veggie moussaka for the other entree. Side dishes include mac and cheese, roasted vegetables, a delicious salad with lots of cranberries and nuts, classic dinner rolls, and sweet chili cornbread muffins.
Now I’m second-guessing the menu. I’m specifically thinking some of the women, children, and older guests won’t like the choices. Would you be put off by no chicken or fish options?
Post # 3
No, and I don’t eat beef at all, but am not totally vegetarian (I’ll eat fish). I think that your sides are also substantial (mac & cheese is pretty heavy, as are rolls) so if someone disliked the other options, they could even make a “meal” out of sides.
My daughters (3 & 4), would be fine with the options available too, since you mentioned children being a worry of yours.
It is not tacky to serve your guests a meal at a meal time that offers them TWO choices. Tacky would be if you had a reception at meal time and offered cheese and crackers.
Post # 4
I would say…”bring on the seafood”…lol
Post # 5
@LibrarianTellsAll: Personally,I wouldn’t be put off by it bc if I like veggie dishes. I am not a vegetarian but i don’t eat red meat but I do eat chicken and turkey. But the veggie dish comes with awesome sides! So I think its fine.
Post # 6
I cannot make a decision without seeing what the actual meals are. If it were, for example, beef with delicious mashed potatoes and some asparagus, I’d choose that, especially if the vegetarian option were something with bell peppers BLECH. But if the vegetarian option were some sort of stuffed eggplant with a delicious cheesy sauce…that would be my choice.
I think, though, that you will please the most people if you offer three options: chicken, beef, and vegetarian. Chances are that most people will either choose chicken or beef. You could tell your caterer that there are a few people who need special accommodations, and usually you don’t have to pay extra for that.
Post # 7
@LibrarianTellsAll: I don’t think it is tacky. But I don’t know what is proper etiquette as far as food is concerned. I went with beef and salmon as the two choices. To me personally, I don’t really care what is offered. I will pick which ever I like more. I have second guessed my menu choices too, but I am going forward with what I have selected. I can’t please everyone all of the time, neither can you.
I think your menu choices are up to you. I know several people who would love to have a vegeterian option. Being healthy is more and more popular.
Is adding a third option a possiblity? If so and it bothers you, and you can afford it add the chicken or fish, then add it. Otherwise, IMO what you have chosen it is perfectly acceptable.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2013 - Sodo Park
I think both options sound great! We aren’t offering chicken, either. 🙂
Post # 9
I don’t see why you’d need a third option. Beef and veggie moussaka are both delicious, and there’s a lot of food. And if anyone is really put out (i.e., they’re kosher or GF or so on), I’m sure they will contact you and you can make arrangements with the caterer. Otherwise, it seems great to me! Bring on the veggies!
Post # 10
I’d be happy with both. I LOVE my meat, but I am down with vegetarian options too, and they can be delicious!
Not everyone feels the same way though.
Post # 11
I think you’re on the right track. Being mindful of the several vegetarians you know will be in attendance is very mindful — you won’t be able to please some picky eaters with two entree choices no matter what the choices are, so don’t fret!
Post # 12
We offered chicken or pork.
Post # 13
I’m a chick and I love beef. Chicken and fish I can make anytime… I don’t make beef very often. Bring on the beef! Lol.
I see no problem with this option.
Wedding chicken is usually gross anyway… at least every chicken entree I’ve had at any wedding.
Post # 14
@LibrarianTellsAll: I’d prefer if u offered two regular choices such as beef and fish, like another pp said the Mac and cheese, cornbread etc will cover the others who have more specific needs
Post # 15
@peachacid: That makes sense. The specific options are: Texas beef brisket and vegetarian moussaka. Side dishes are mac and cheese, roasted vegetables, a delicious salad with lots of cranberries and nuts, classic dinner rolls, and sweet chili cornbread muffins. It’s served buffet style, so everyone can take whatever they like.
No bell peppers… my fiance doesn’t like them, either! 🙂
For our buffet, I doubt we could get away with telling the caterer that a few people have special dietary needs and getting a chicken dish for free. For a plated dinner, though, that’s a great idea.
Post # 16
We had steak or vegetarian (grilled portabella mushrooms), and we got a lot of compliments on the food. No one seemed too put out. We did have to provide some gluten free but that was really easy to do – the caterer was very accomodating.
Really, it’s your wedding and as long as you are providing food at dinner time, it’s not tacky! Plus both beef and the vegetarian dishes sound great. (I love mac n cheese)