Is this considered uniniviting?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite him?
    Invite him : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Don't invite him, say nothing : (46 votes)
    85 %
    Don't invite him, explain : (7 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I wouldn’t invite him, and I just wouldn’t mention it.  If he’s gutsy enough to question where his invitation is, then you can explain that due to budget, it’s family and very close friends only.

    Post # 4
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Don’t invite him, don’t explain.

    No one has the right to attend your wedding – it’s an honor to be invited.
    So there is no need to explain yourself if you can’t invite someone.

    Post # 5
    906 posts
    Busy bee

    I would just tell him you guys decided to have a very small wedding, family and bridal party only. 

    Post # 6
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Don’t invite. Next time you speak don’t make first mention of the wedding plans. If he inquires let him know you are having a very small, family only celebration.

    Plans change from when we first get engaged. DDon’t feel bad.

    Post # 7
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Don’t invite him and if he asks about it just explain what you said above, you are having a small party and yo uhad more family that wanted to come than anticipated which meant you couldn’t have as many friends as you would have liked. 

    Post # 8
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think that counts as uninviting unless you have told him he is being invited.

    Post # 9
    1690 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    When you say you “verbally invited him” what do you mean exactly. Did you say “you will be invited to our wedding” ?

    Post # 11
    41 posts

    It is not horrible if you don’t invite him! Totally cool for the reasons you listed. How/if to tell him – I guess it depends on if you want to continue to have a relationship with this guy or not. If not – feel free to burn the bridge and say nothing. He will figure it out when they don’t get an invite. If you do want to remain some type of friends, then I think you need to let him know that he is not invited (email or something is fine, you don’t need to say it to his face). If someone told me I was invited, I would totally think I was invited, so would appreciate being told otherwise. Keep in mind that your feelings about him have changed, but his about you may have not (i.e. he may not think you are not as friendly as you used to be). Give the reasons above, that it is going to be a smaller shindig than you expected at first, or whatever, any excuse is fine. 

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