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Why does it matter what she does with Joe? Obviously, he's in your past and will be staying that way. She can shtup whomever she pleases, really. You made your mistakes with him; she can make hers.
I think if she's just hooking up with him it is a bit weird but shouldn't turn out to be a big problem. It could get really awkward if he became her SO and you had to see him though.
@Miss Sayrah: Wow. Given your sister's pattern, I'd NEVER leaver her alone with your husband. 
No one would be upset if their sister had sex with their ex? I just think it is a little too "Jerry Springer" lol
@Miss Sayrah: eyuck. No, I was "sorta" talking to my sister's best guy friend, and that was weird enough for me. I agree with you.
@Miss Sayrah: I'd be super upset and weirded out, too! There's really not a lot you can do, OP, but pray that her and Joe don't actually get married :(. I'm sorry she's doing this.
In my opinion, I could never be okay with her if anything happened between them, let alone a relationship- that would be too much mostly because of my past with him that involves my now-husband. I know that I am jumping to conclusions to begin with, and I never would have even considered the thought of her doing something with him if she had not chosen to do something similar twice already. It is just sad that she is letting selfishness come between us.
I would 100% be upset! It has nothing to do with you having feelings for this person, I think its more that your sister doesn't respect that you've been with these people in the past so she should really lay off unless she's in love with one of them.
I'd be upset! But that has more to do with the fact that my exes are douchebags and my sister could do 100% better...
But yea, that has a little bit of a Springer vibe to me too.
I think its sort of weird when friends dates/hooks up someone after the other has a history with them. A sister? Oh man, totally weird in my book.
The history with this guy and your husband is definitely making it not cool on her part -especially if it becomes something more serious. Sounds like you should not let your sister know who you dated :)
I'm actually marrying my sister's ex. They dated when she was in high school (he's a year older than her, I'm a year and a half older than him) but she gave me her full blessing so I think that is somewhat different. I think it depends on your comfort level. In our case, he was already a member of our family and the breakup was her idea, not his.
Um yeah, disturbing. Makes me think of those previews for that movie "The Roommate". THere is no reason why she should be continuously going after your ex'es. You should have a talk with her
Isn't it girl code that we don't hook up with ex's, especially family members? That's very weird to me, I'd be uncomfortable with that.
ugh - what a pattern!
given your history with him, regardless of the fact that you are married now, it would piss me off. Just imagine how uncomfortable your husband would be if they were to become serious, and they would have to see each other at family functions. So not cool.
Also, I love the "Say-rah" - I get that all the time from living down South! Have you seen the La-Sayrah video on youtube?
Ugh, I'm sorry. I just don't get how girls break the "girl code" all the time :(
I think that it is VERY weird... I also think that it is OK for you to not like it even though you are not with him and married to someone else. It is still weird... and even though you are no longer with the guy she will always be your sister... what if they get married or something and you have to be around your ex... whom has been a source of drama in your marriage in the past...?!?! NOT OK
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This will be a bit long, but here goes. A few months ago, my sister hooked up with an ex of mine. They started hanging out and she asked how I felt about it and I told her that it honestly disgusted me to think of them having sex. I thought that it was weird and bizzare, but she insisted that it wasn't I did not have sex with this guy. She knew that we had been intimate in "other ways" but thought that becuase there was no intercourse that it wasn't weird- regardless of my feelings about it. I dropped the issue and they continued to hang out until it eventually fizzled out. I haven't mentioned this at all since the whole thing happened.
Fast forward, and basically the same thing happens with yet another guy. I told her that this was weird too but that it wasn't my business and I didn't want to make her upset.
Just this past weekend she mentioned that she hung out with another guy, we can call him Joe, and one of his friends and his friend's girlfriend. "Joe" and I have a long personal history. He was my first boyfriend, a high school fling that lasted about 6 years on and off. I have had sex with Joe before and she knows this. I even regretably cheated on my then boyfriend-now husband with this person two years ago, before we were married. This was a huge mistake, obviously, and caused a lot of problems which were very difficult to get past between my now husband and I. I can't help but think that it was odd that my sister was hanging out and drinking with Joe and these other two people. She has known Joe for a long time too, but they have only ever hung out with me or occasionally with a large group at a party. Am I crazy for considering that she would have done something with him? This is obviously very upsetting to me and I just wanted to get some other opinions. Thanks Bees.