Hey Weddingbee! Quick question for you all. I tried on this dress over the weekend and completely fell in love with it, but I only want to purchase it if it's appropriate to wear to a wedding:
I personally don't care about the whole no wearing white to a wedding thing BUT many people do and sadly that anthro. dress is the color of a wedding dress which means it could potentially upset the bride, her mom, her family or other wedding guests. There are many other great colors out there so to be on the safe side I would pick something else.
oh yeah and if you doubt how vicious people can get when it comes to the whole wearing white to a wedding issue I always like to point out this blog entry from the editor of Martha Stewart Weddings (aka the wedding bible). She wore a white dress to a wedding and she got trashed by blog readers. I mean people said really mean and horrible things all b/c she wore white.
I dunno... are you in the South? I know that the rules here in the South are different from other areas of the country. If you're in the South it's a definite NO WAY! You'll be ostracized and talked about for years. Really.
In other areas? I have no idea. Frankly, the rule that i've always lived by is if I think it might not be okay, it probably isn't.
I have a question: What if she were to pair it with some brightly coloured accents or accessories? (ie. pashmina, jewelery, purse, shoes, etc.) Would that be any different from wearing a white and other colour dress? I'm just curious :)
Although I'm sure you have good intentions (like looking fabulous) I just don't think this is the right dress for a wedding. I'm in the category of people who find it highly inappropriate to wear white to a wedding and I know I'm not alone. I'm opposed to even wearing pale colors in general to a wedding (for me at least, I just wouldn't feel comfortable). Super cute dress, but I'd skip it for the wedding.
Even if you went to the bride (assuming you're close) and asked her if it was OK, what could potentially be the issue are all the little comments made by other guests, either to your face or behind your back. I was just thinking of this today as I was watching the episode of The Office that featured Phillys and Bob Vance's wedding and this particular exchange:
Meredith: I thought you weren't supposed to wear white to a wedding?
Kelly (wearing an obviously formal white gown with a tiara): It was an emergency. (To camera guy during a talking head) I look really good in white. :-)
Though this dress does not fall into that category (and is very cute), you never know how sensitive others can be to this.
That dress is adorable! I am a big believer in not wearing white to someone else's wedding and I wouldn't personally wear it. But you might be able to get away with it if you wear other colored accessories (ie, no white shoes, and don't wear it with pearls).
I personally wouldn't care less if someone wore a cute ivory dress to my wedding unless she was wearing a wedding dress ;), but even so, I wouldn't choose to wear the color to a wedding myself and I think a lot of people could get offended. But I do agree with others that a well chosen boldly colored cover up could make it work.
Thank you guys so much for all the help....I sort of had a feeling that it may not be appropriate, and it sounds like most people seem to agree. Thanks very much, and I may just have to find another reason to wear this awesome dress!!
I personally won't mind, but it's a case of, put yourself in the bride's shoes and see how you would feel. But most people nowadays would vote against it.
I say no to white, cream, ivory, champagne, or anything else like it. no no no. i wish they'd start joking more about this on sitcoms or something to get the message across to people. it is not okay. simply...no.
Hey Weddingbee! Quick question for you all. I tried on this dress over the weekend and completely fell in love with it, but I only want to purchase it if it's appropriate to wear to a wedding:
http://www.anthropologie.com/anthro/catalog/productdetail.jsp?_dyncharset=ISO-8859-1&_dynSessConf=5376026316603656580&id=830116&parentid=APP_DRESS_SOLID&pushId=APP_DRESS_SOLID&popId=APPAREL&sortProperties=&navCount=2&navAction=jump&fromCategoryPage=true&selectedProductSize=&selectedProductSize1=&color=cre
The wedding that I want to wear it to is over the summer (July), so would it be ok to wear, or is it too close to white? Thanks!
posted by pviswanath 2 posts 2 months agoI personally don't care about the whole no wearing white to a wedding thing BUT many people do and sadly that anthro. dress is the color of a wedding dress which means it could potentially upset the bride, her mom, her family or other wedding guests. There are many other great colors out there so to be on the safe side I would pick something else.
posted by BaghdadBride 206 posts 2 months agoThe dress you like is super cute.. but it is really close to white. Couldn't you buy it and wear it out to a nice dinner or Summer party? Â
posted by mina 6 posts 2 months agooh yeah and if you doubt how vicious people can get when it comes to the whole wearing white to a wedding issue I always like to point out this blog entry from the editor of Martha Stewart Weddings (aka the wedding bible). She wore a white dress to a wedding and she got trashed by blog readers. I mean people said really mean and horrible things all b/c she wore white.
http://blogs1.marthastewart.com/weddings/2007/08/tough-question.html#comments
If they will trash the editor of the wedding bible that way imagine what people could say about you for wearing champagne.
posted by BaghdadBride 206 posts 2 months agoit's a cute dress but i think if you need to ask, then you already know the answer.
posted by emileee 123 posts 2 months agoNo, sorry. I don't think it is appropriate.
posted by Niki 433 posts 2 months agoAbsolutely do not wear this dress to someone else's wedding.
posted by CarolineG 284 posts 2 months agoI dunno... are you in the South? I know that the rules here in the South are different from other areas of the country. If you're in the South it's a definite NO WAY! You'll be ostracized and talked about for years. Really.
In other areas? I have no idea. Frankly, the rule that i've always lived by is if I think it might not be okay, it probably isn't.
posted by andriab 15 posts 2 months agoI have a question: What if she were to pair it with some brightly coloured accents or accessories? (ie. pashmina, jewelery, purse, shoes, etc.) Would that be any different from wearing a white and other colour dress? I'm just curious :)
posted by missbean 131 posts 2 months agomissbean,
I think that is a really creative idea, but I still don't think that the dress is appropriate.
posted by JCM9608 470 posts 2 months agoI go with no unless you have a "bold" colored cardigan & shoes...even then I would talk to the bride in advance.
posted by cannotwait 228 posts 2 months agoAlthough I'm sure you have good intentions (like looking fabulous) I just don't think this is the right dress for a wedding. I'm in the category of people who find it highly inappropriate to wear white to a wedding and I know I'm not alone. I'm opposed to even wearing pale colors in general to a wedding (for me at least, I just wouldn't feel comfortable). Super cute dress, but I'd skip it for the wedding.
posted by EAQ219 31 posts 2 months agoEven if you went to the bride (assuming you're close) and asked her if it was OK, what could potentially be the issue are all the little comments made by other guests, either to your face or behind your back. I was just thinking of this today as I was watching the episode of The Office that featured Phillys and Bob Vance's wedding and this particular exchange:
Meredith: I thought you weren't supposed to wear white to a wedding?
Kelly (wearing an obviously formal white gown with a tiara): It was an emergency. (To camera guy during a talking head) I look really good in white. :-)
Though this dress does not fall into that category (and is very cute), you never know how sensitive others can be to this.
posted by bellethellama 8 posts 2 months agoThat dress is adorable! I am a big believer in not wearing white to someone else's wedding and I wouldn't personally wear it. But you might be able to get away with it if you wear other colored accessories (ie, no white shoes, and don't wear it with pearls).
posted by klheasley 11 posts 2 months agoI personally wouldn't care less if someone wore a cute ivory dress to my wedding unless she was wearing a wedding dress ;), but even so, I wouldn't choose to wear the color to a wedding myself and I think a lot of people could get offended. But I do agree with others that a well chosen boldly colored cover up could make it work.
posted by charmedbride 46 posts 2 months agoThank you guys so much for all the help....I sort of had a feeling that it may not be appropriate, and it sounds like most people seem to agree. Thanks very much, and I may just have to find another reason to wear this awesome dress!!
posted by pviswanath 2 posts 2 months agoIf you wore different color jacket with it at all times, otherwise I think it's too white for the wedding.
posted by petunka 72 posts 2 months agoI personally won't mind, but it's a case of, put yourself in the bride's shoes and see how you would feel. But most people nowadays would vote against it.
posted by sally0919 28 posts 2 months agothe dress is cute, but don't wear it. the wedding is in july, so i'm sure you'll be able to find a more appropriate (non-white) dress.
posted by anna 36 posts 2 months agoI say no to white, cream, ivory, champagne, or anything else like it. no no no. i wish they'd start joking more about this on sitcoms or something to get the message across to people. it is not okay. simply...no.
posted by gracielou 90 posts 2 months ago