Post # 1
My FSIL mentioned to me she was thinking of wearing this dress to either my wedding to her brother at the end of July or to another wedding in June. She is 25, and has never been to a wedding before so she came to me for advice. She said she made sure it wasn’t bridal or bridesmaidsey but I think it’s a little loud. She said she wanted everyone there to stop and look at her, I mentioned that it’s kind of a faux pas to wear something to a wedding with the intention of sticking out.
What do you think, Bees?
PSA-I would never dictact that she CAN’T wear it, but I could influence that she keep looking as she came to me for advice.
Post # 2
Hmmmm to me, the most important thing is if you feel uncomfortable with her wearing it. In photos, if everyone is muted and she’s in bright green the eye may get drawn to her. You can point that out but I’d also tell her to wear it if she still wants to 🙂
Post # 3
It’s loud and overall not my style.
Post # 4
That dress is hella cute and doesn’t seem ridiculously loud to me. I’d wear it to work with nary a second thought. As far as guest attire goes, the two rules are: follow the dress code and don’t dress like a bride. Beyond that, guests can wear whatever they want. (And who cares if a guest’s clothing makes them stick out? That’s what fashion was invented for—to express our personal styles and, yes, to get attention. It’s not like the bride and groom aren’t going to be getting plenty of attention on the big day. There’s no rule in place that the guests can’t draw any attention!)
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK
Personally it’s too loud for me full stop. I’m not sure why because I’d say bright red for example would be OK, but there must be something about lime green where I don’t think it makes a good colour for clothes.
Post # 6
I think it’s cute and perfect for a spring wedding. A white bridal dress will really pop against this—I’d rather have my guests in loud colors vs muted pinks and lilacs.
Post # 7
Well, she should never show up to a wedding with the goal of having everyone stop and look at her…unless it is her wedding of course, haha. I don’t even know if I would have thought it was too loud had I not read that that was her goal, but that would bother me to hear as a bride I think.
Post # 8
I looooove that dress honestly. Now I want to order one for myself!
I think she’s misguided in trying to get people to notice her, but I don’t think the dress is inappropriate at all. Plus, if she’s the type who is trying to get people to look at her, she could wear a long sleeved muted color basic dress and still somehow manage to make it attention grabby. One of my BFF’s sisters is like this and trust me, the dress doesn’t matter because she’ll still be the one wearing it, lol.
But yeah speaking just about the dress itself, it’s totally cute, 100% appropriate, and completely fine for a wedding or brunch or a nice spring walk in the park. 🙂
Also just as an aside: while I think it’s wrong to try to take attention away from the bride, I also think it’s completely okay as a guest to wear what makes you feel like a million bucks (as long as it’s appropriate to the situation). I had a guest wear a champagne colored dress–my dress was champagne-ish as well (WToo Olivia, oatmeal)–and a white fur bolero. It was a bodycon, super tight dress and my friend is not a small gal. Not one single fuck was given by me or anyone else that she was in something that was probably ‘too loud’ or ‘inappropriate.’ She felt amazing, she looked happy and confident, and no one confused her for me or gave her any attention that was supposed to be on me and my new DH. She had a blast because she was comfortable and confident and that’s what I’d hope any bride would want for her guests.
Post # 9
It’s a cute dress and it’s not white so I don’t see any reason why this would be inappropriate. Only on the bee, lol. Also, if she’s the type of person who wants everyone to look at her, she’ll find a way to make that happen regardless of what she’s wearing. That’s a personality issue, not a wardrobe issue.
I cannot imagine giving a fuck about someone wearing bright green, or really any other color at all, to my wedding. These types of posts never cease to amaze me.
ETA: completely agree with PP that what really matters is making sure your guests feel comfortable and great about themselves at your wedding. I also think people obsess WAY too much about how outfits might look in “the pictures.” I can tell you, the only photos I’m gonna go back to in the years following my wedding are those of me and my groom, and maybe immediate family. Who cares if some guest in a bright dress pops up in a few photos on the dance floor? Literally why does this matter at all in the scheme of things?
Post # 10
It looks like an easter egg.
Post # 11
tiffanybruiser : while I understand where you are coming from, if she wore it to my wedding she is immediate family (FSIL) and would be in a lot of the photos at which you would look.
That being said, at any other spring wedding I think it would be fine. It just surprised me when I saw it. She has porcelain skin so it will really stand out on her. And honestly if she hadn’t shown me I wouldn’t have batted an eye on the day. But because she did show me and specifically said she wanted everyone to pay attention to her it kind of threw me off.
I agree it’s very fashionable and springy, very true to her personality.
Post # 12
Alright, this whole giving a crap what your guests wear thing has gotten out of control. It’s not a white wedding dress, her boobs and butt aren’t hanging out all over the place, it’s fine. While I do think its odd for a guest to intentionally want to stand out, it really really doesn’t matter.
FWIW, I think its cute.
Post # 13
Tacky, ugly and loud. But I suppose if that’s the kind of attention she’s seeking she’s made a great choice.
Post # 14
That dress is straight up ugly but it’s fine to wear for her.
Post # 15
This is getting ridiculous…
this dress is perfect for a spring/summer wedding. Who cares if she wants attention, it’s still going to be on you and your groom. And bringing up her age was also stupid. 25 is not young, she is old enough to dress herself.