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40 for drinks alone for a person. Yeah, that seems really high to me. But it is probably a higher cost of living area, so it makes sense. I wouldn't be able to pay that much just for drinks though. How much is the food pp in comparison?
I think it is outrageousus too; however, she is having it during peak season and they are probably charging here cork fees and serving fees, and possibly a gratuity fee. I would suggest to her that she get a cost breakdown on exactly what pp charge includes.
I would not suggest an open tab. That could get even more expensive. Also, she may be able to have some of the money refunded back to her, if they do not use all of the alcohol.
I have no idea what ours will be yet, but I know it won't be that much because I just won't pay it.
We're doing the open tab option. Risky, I know... but the per person charge assumed that everyone would comsume 5-ish drinks at the open bar. ...and that's on top of the wine table service -- and a champagne toast -- during dinner. I'm guessing that a few of our friends might consume that much, but none of my parents' friends will. Overall, the open tab seems to be the cheaper option for us. At your mom's wedding location, how many drinks would each person need to consume to reach $40? If you think the guests won't drink that much, then I'd say go with the open tab instead.
That sounds way too expensive! (expecially for lunch!) The places we looked at here were $20-30 per person, which I still think is expensive.
I'm paying 24$ pp for three hours of open bar and that isn't for super high premium liquors, kinda mid range stuff. I think this is reasonable considering at a tab bar they are charging 5$ a beer and we have some serious beer drinking guys who could put us in debt. But, yes, that seems too high.
For a day time wedding, it seems WAY too high. I would risk the tab. Even at $10 a person per drink, everyone would need to drink 4 drinks. At lunch. I think the risk is low of her going over, though have her ask for a list of what she would be paying for in the tab (are sodas $5? does she need to cover labor and a tip? etc.)
What about giving each person so many drink tickets? If that is an option, that may cut the costs.
Mine is $20pp so I guess if they're serving nothing but Top Shelf I can see it getting out of hand, but hey it's "her big day"...
we're doing a tab. it's a sunday wedding so i feel like people won't be drinking that much- driving home and having to work the next day. i feel like it would be the same thing for a day time wedding.
Thanks so much for the ideas! I'm amazed at how the boards have grown even since I got married in June 08!
it's a monday lunch, $40 is more for a saturday night swanky all nigh open bar. take them to the mat, bkylnbride08, TO THE MAT.
Agree, $40 for an EVENING wedding, yes, that makes sense (i figure $15/martini at a nice bar, right? so 2 drinks, plus bartenders, yeah i can see $40/pp) but for a morning wedding? Whoa. No way.
Can you cut it back to just SOME liquor? I know it's a morning wedding....i'd think champagne and sparkling wine, nothing heavy like scotch.
At a wedding i was at, the bride and groom covered the first $500 in drinks and then it was buy your own. Everybody got 2 drinks out of the bar before it opened up to cash.
Wow. We're paying $40 pp for 4 hour dinner reception, which is a lot, but I really wanted the venue and it was their lowest option. For a lunch though that seems really high!
I'm paying by consumption so I have a feeling the tab at mine going to be huge since it a 20-40 age group that loves to drink. I dont think that sounds right though for an afternoon wedding.
We are paying $24 pp for 3 hour evening reception full open bar
Price for anything is dependent on where you are located. NJ is very expensive by nature so obviously it will be more expensive than other areas, but those prices may be quite common in that area. If it still seems expensive, ask the caterer what they can do, if anything to knock off the price.
I would definitely do the bar on consumption so you are only charged what each person actually drinks. The $40 per person is also going to account for people that only drink sodas or maybe only have 1 or 2 glasses of wine. On consumption is a much better way to go, or you can even set a monetary limit for the bar so once it reaches that amount it can turn to cash or you can decide to keep it open longer.
That is expensive...ours is $22pp and that includes just beer and wine. Is it an open bar with all top shelf liquors? I would do the tab but check their prices per drink and maybe ask the bar to exclude anyone from doing shots because that only leads to very very drunk people!
I'd risk the tab. See if you can take soda out of the equation and then pay for any alcohol seperately. A lot of people will drink tea, coffee and soft drinks during a lunch reception. I think it's a safe gamble. I'd double check how much drinks run too - just to make sure they're not being ridiculous!
I'm With Ember 78 & naangell...its LBI...if the wedding was in Seaside i would see it differently. I like Nanngel's plan, start out with a certain dollar amount, if it goes over then maybe turn it into a cash bar.
I'd say $40pp would only be reasonable if it was a Saturday night, top shelf, everything's fair game kind of open bar, in a city. But a Monday luncheon?! No way. I'd say do the open tab but check their price per drink - hopefully they don't charge $20/drink :)
Yeah, that's steep price for what they're doing. I think that's how much our food will end up costing!
That is ridiculous for a daytime wedding! It should only cost $20-$30 max. Is it a possibility to serve only beer, wine & a signature drink? People aren't going to be hitting the hard stuff that early in the day...
Ours is $25/pp so $40 is high but maybe not so much for that area.
Ours is going to be about $30pp but it is for unlimited beer, wine, champagne, sodas, juices, and premium bar for length of the reception (5 hours), but we will have the alcohol stop after maybe 4. For the under 21 guests and vendors, we are paying $14.50 and it is unlimited for all non-alcoholic beverages.
the first place I put my deposit down asked for $30 pp for beer and wine bar. After thinking about how expensive it would be for us, we lost our deposit and found a reception site that allowed outside caterers and the caterers supplied us with bartenders and we bought our own alcohol. Let's see $3900 for beer and wine bar or $900 for tons of beer and liquor we paid on our own and with lots left over.
Where did you get married in Vermont? Currently looking for reception sites there!
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Hello!
My mom is getting married in Long Beach Island, NJ (yes, the jersey shore!).
It is a plated luncheon on a Monday in June, their high-season. The inn wants to charge $40pp for drinks, and that seems pretty crazy to me. For my Vermont wedding, we spent about $15pp.
She can't bring her own alcohol, ,but they do have an option to have a tab instead of charge pp.
Thanks for your opinion!