Post # 1
I’m trying to make sure I have enough for my bridesmaids’ gifts and I just don’t know what the right balance is!
So far I have a little mini-emergency kit and getting ready robe for each of them, and I’m paying for all of their hair and make up. I was thinking of just getting one more smallish more personal thing – is that enough? Should I have more “material items”? I had planned to do more physical gifts, but the hair and makeup is costing a lot more than expecting – that being said – I don’t want to be cheap and will get them more if you all think that is what’s appropriate!
Post # 2
Monk6552: I think that’s perfect. I paid for my bridesmaids’ makeup and gave them each a pashmina to wear with their dresses and a lipgloss. Nothing too elaborate.
Post # 3
I think it’s fine. A robe and mini emergency kit are super cute. I would be a very happy BM since you paid for the hair and make-up too.
Post # 4
Both of those gifts are really for your wedding and not a little something just for the girls. Add a personal gift that is completely unrelated.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
Many people are of the mind that things pertaining to your wedding aren’t “gifts”- like you paying for their hair and makeup to be done the way you’d like it.
The robe is nice, and I think if you add something personal, it’ll be nice. Maybe a little body spray or something, different scent for each girl?
Post # 6
Horseradish: gingerkitten: Yup this is exactly why I asked – I wasn’t sure if I was really hitting the mark. I will definitely try and work on getting something more personal to them. Thanks!
Post # 7
I would definitely add something more personal. I just got a monogramed robe and we had to have pictures made in it…I didn’t feel like it was a gift at all. Mean while, all of the groomsmen got a pocket knife with their name on it. We got robbed in the gift department if you ask me…and we had to pay for our own hair and makeup.
Post # 8
I think people on here go wayyyyyyy overboard with BM gifts. I kept feeling that I needed to add more because of what some people on here get for their gals. Just keep in mind, your BM are your BM because they want to be by your side not because of the gift!
Post # 9
I agree, it’s tough to ignore some of the pressure of over gifting, because everything certainly adds up. For my gifts, I am keeping it very simple with a small cosmetic clutch with “emergency” items, like lip gloss, travel body spray and hair spray, qtips, a couple of nips 😉 (each of my BM’s fav spirit). I’m also doing the robe thing, and i will be sewing personalized tote bags together. I may include a small peice of jewlry, but I’m not sure if it is enough or not either. It’s so difficult!
Post # 10
Swebs14: +1. When I was a BM in my friends wedding my ‘gift’ was she paid for our dresses… but we still paid for alterations, shoes (specific shoes she wanted), accessories, hair and makeup. Plus the hotel because we all traveled. I never ONCE felt giped and didn’t know that was terrible, until I came on this site. lol
I muself have fallen prey to the ‘not enough’ in the gift department. Now I have way too much stuff… ugh.
Post # 11
Monk6552: Hey! I’m a DC-area bride, too… I am in the same boat! I think I might also try to do something DC-ish themed since 5 out of the 7 are traveling from all over the country to stand in the wedding. I’m not sure what though… I’m curious to see what else you decide on! I’m also paying for their H&M and giving them a getting ready robe.
Post # 12
I would think that I’d plenty. I would be happy with my hair & makeup paid for too!
Post # 13
Monk6552: Paying for their hair and make up is a gift for YOU, not for them. I would give something else. I would add something more personal.
Post # 14
Thank you for all the responses!
I do plan to get them each something personal – but probably on the smaller side.
I always thought it was funny when people said paying for hair and make up wasn’t a gift and/or a gift to myself though. I’m not telling them how to do their hair or makeup – just wanted them to be able to be pampered too!
Post # 15
I see the comment a lot about people going ‘overboard’ on gifts because they got the monogrammed robe and the monogrammed tote and the emergency kit and the flip flops and the tumblers and the wine glasses and all the other “bridesmaid” things.
But you don’t need all that stuff! You know what I’d like more than all of those things combined for a bridesmaid gift? A book by Sophie Kinsella that I haven’t read yet, because I’ve already devoured all the ones in the Shopaholic series and I’m itching for more. That’s WAY cheaper than a huge pile of the more traditional bridesmaid gifts. I would be super impressed with a bridesmaid gift like that because it shows the bride really KNOWS me and cares more about getting me something she knows I’d love than having matchy matchy stuff for pictures and because it looks cute all grouped together on the table.
I’m sure there’s something small like a book or a movie that each of your bridesmaids has had their eye on, go get that and bask in the appreciation.