Post # 1
I am wondering if the wedding gift I have chosen and already purchased for a friend of mine is “enough”. I had a very talented craftsy person frame her invite and save the date in a shadow box with some decorations that are very pretty – it is absolutely beautiful, but only cost $65 (I normally spend $100ish on wedding gifts). I don’t know if someone would look at it and think it’s beautiful and love it, or would your average bride also want something from her registry if an off registry gift is given, even if it is thoughtful as opposed to a bizarre regift. 🙂
If it matters – I gave a very large shower gift and engagement gift, but the bride is the type where they won’t “count” if she felt the wedding gift were lacking. The bride and I have had some issues lately so I’m a little resentful at having to spend more money, but I also don’t want to give a bad or cheap gift. (I am a bridesmaid if that matters).
Edited to add – if it helps, the shower and engagement gift cost (combined) over $250 – think nice pots and pans and a full set of knives. At the time I was happy to be generous, but she has been such a bridezilla I’m resentful of doing more even if it is expected. The framed item was ordered months before drama started, originally I had planned to do that plus something else (not sure what, but off the registry).
Post # 3
I think that the wedding gift sounds lovely and I would love to recieve something like that. I think it’s a great idea and I may have to steal it, lol. I think everyone gives what they can and it’s not a requirement to get a gift at all. I think you’re a-okay 🙂 and I think it’s a sweet gift. Sorry she’s being a bridezilla, lol!
Post # 4
I think that gift is wonderful and perfectly acceptable since you are a bridesmaid and has such thought behind it. I’d be delighted to receive it and not even think about it’s financial value
Post # 5
One of my favorite gifts was a framed comic that we had as a reading (Calvin and Hobbes, it was adorable). I can’t imagine not being happy about having such a great memory framed for display!
Post # 6
It sounds like you have given more than enough! Being a bridesmaid should be plenty, plus the bridal shower and engagement gift, plus the lovely and incredibly thoughtful keepsake you’ve had made for her… I absolutely wouldn’t stress about it!
I am not expecting anything large from any of my bridesmaids…. the help they are providing me in all the planning is invaluable to me, plus the money they are spending on dresses and the bachelorette party (even though I’m trying to find affordable dresses, and I’ve insisted I don’t want anything extravagent for a bachelorette party) is all more than enough for me. I love my girls to pieces for all they’ve done for me so far, to expect anything more from them I’d be a terrible bride! If she seems unappreciative of your gift, I’d be appalled!
Post # 7
I would love a gift like that! It’s not like she could have registered for it, anyway.