(Closed) Is this even possible?! Maybe I am nuts…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Can you be upset without being aware of it?
    Yes : (40 votes)
    73 %
    No : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Maybe : (9 votes)
    16 %
    I guess, but it sounds pretty rare : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    749 posts
    Busy bee

    @bebelicious1:  Of course you can be bothered by something and not know it!  That’s called your subconscious.  🙂

    Dreams usually signify nothing more than the state of your subconscious.  If the dream is troubled, there must be something in your conscious life that you are struggling with.  I don’t personally put a lot of stock into a particular dream’s “storyline”, except that now you know you’re feeling insecure over something – and if your FI’s making jokes bother you, then there you go.  Of course you’re not going to leave him.  🙂

    I’ve had dreams where I’ve thrown DH out of the bedroom window and wake up scared…and by morning when I tell him about it we laugh together – he’d end up in my hosta bed in the front yard and would ruin a whole lotta plants!

    Post # 4
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    4529 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @bebelicious1:  absolutely! I think it’s a sign of a nice guy that he noticed it and  brought it to your attention while mentioning he’d try to tone it down 🙂

    Post # 5
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    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I definitely think it’s a way for your subconcious mind to rationalize and work through things that might not be glaringly obvious to you concously.  It could also be symbolic and not have anything to do with they actual topic that was discussed in your dream.  Either way, it is great that you and your FI can discuss it rationaly and he is willing to work on on his “joking” if it bothers you.

    Post # 6
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    3594 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Maybe that’s the case, maybe it’s not…but at least he acknowledges that these jokes could be hurtful and tones it down.

    I rarely have good dreams about my FI.  When I do dream about him, it’s always something bad.  I’ve had dreams that he was chasing me and trying to kill me; that he kicked me out of the car on the side of the road; that I found him cheating on me; etc.  All crazy ass dreams and I wake up so mad at him at first because of them.  When I tell him about it, we laugh about it.  In waking life, we get along just fine, and he actually treats me better than I could ever ask for.  I think I sub-consciously have a fear of him leaving me and that’s why I have these crazy dreams. 

    Post # 7
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    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @bebelicious1:  Brides-to-be usually have bothersome or crazy dreams.

    I read somewhere that no partner will ever be more than 80% of what we want them to be. That means that 20% of their personality, habits, mannerisms, looks, or SOMETHING will likely never change and will always irk us.

    Those dreams are about fears of the unknown, often regarding that 20% we don’t like, because we are trying to deal with meshing our lives forever with what the parts that aren’t ideal.

    I know one thing. Women that manage to find and keep a husband are the ones that accept imperfection (barring any really serious problems).

    Post # 8
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    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I should mention that I have been having crazy dreams for two weeks and more as my wedding date draws closer. Two of my married friends told me the same thing happened to them, along with crying spells.

    Sorry to the original poster. I am rambling …

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