(Closed) Is this even possible or just rude?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

i dont think it would be rude, but they may be weirded out. I know i would if someone asked me that.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Would you really want your wedding on a neighbors private property? What about the bathroom situation? Or parking? It would be a lot to ask of strangers…

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t think it would hurt to ask. Maybe they’ve done it before!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What’s the harm in asking?

 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I highly doubt they would ever allow complete strangers to have a wedding with even more complete strangers on their property. But hey, it can’t hurt to ask. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I think it’s weird. Of course you can try, but I know how I would respond if a perfect stranger rang my doorbell and asked, ‘Hey, your place is gorgeous – can we host our wedding here?’

‘Uh, thanks, um, that’s very flattering … sorry, I didn’t quite catch your name? … Alright, and when is your wedding? … Sorry, we’ll be busy that day. Thank you for asking.”

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Bryant2be:  So, you’re assuming they’d be cool with dozens of cars parking on their grass?

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Seems like you really want to do it there so I say ask. If you are uncomfortable knocking or think it might catch them off guard you could write a letter tell them about your self and ask and put your contact info? Maybe reading it will allow them a chance to think about it?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it’s WAY too much to ask. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Having a wedding at a private residence is a huge undertaking. The bathroom situation alone was enough to scare me off of it. Most residential septic systems can not handle the waste load of a wedding-sized party. Things get dicey fast in that respect!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m gonna go ahead and vote don’t do it on this one. Sorry OP but if that happened to me I don’t know if I’d even know how to respond normally. I think it’s very weird. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Nah just plan it all, send out the invitations, and show up in their yard the day of in your wedding dress.  j/k  Wink

If you think it’s worth asking for then do it but if I were the neighbor and I didn’t know you I would be a bit weirded out by it.

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