is this even remotely true about labor/delivery?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Stace126:  The people I know who’ve given birth (mostly) tell me that it’s the most intense pain they’ve ever experienced, but I haven’t heard anyone say it wasn’t worth it.

I haven’t personally had a child, and I’m also terrified…

Post # 4
1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Stace126:  The pain is unbearable at the time but once it is over you dont remember a thing about the pain…Honestly I can tell you it hurt like a b*tch but I cant tell you WHAT it felt like, or what part of the body hurt.

Post # 5
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@Stace126:  It’s BS, a “del” is not even a unit, there is no way of measuring pain on a scale like that. (I have a B.Sc. Degree in neuroscience)

Post # 7
1802 posts
Buzzing bee

I read a husband’s argument somewhere that really made me LOL. He said that childbirth is obviously terribly painful, but it can’t be worse than a man getting kicked in the groin. His reasoning is that after a few years a woman forgets the pain enough to want another child, but a man never wants to be kneed in the groin again LOL. 

I have heard that this meme is actually false. I can’t imagine that you would be in more pain than your body was physically capable of handling. Also, I’m sure someone somewhere has broken 20 bones at once and lived to tell the tale. When I think of your body being unable to handle a certain level of pain, for some reason I think of someone exploding LOL.

Post # 8
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The experience of pain is hugely subjective, and also very closely related to your psychological state, ie. stress hormones will increase your experience of pain.

The meme is bullshit, period.  

Yes, labour is hard, and most women would say it’s the hardest, most painful thing they have experienced.  But it’s not “unbearable” in the sense that you can actually bear it, the pain won’t kill you or cause you a psychological break.

Without knowing you, and without generalizing, I would say that telling yourself that you’re a wimp and that bruised ribs were almost unbearable for you is probably not helping and you’re setting yourself up to be completely terrorized.

Post # 9
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Stace126:  I agree with PPs. Everyone I know who has given birth says it was worth it, and interestingly, most only have very foggy memories of the pain and say they would go (and have gone) on to do it again! And of course, modern pain medicine is pretty magical. 


Post # 10
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Stace126:  Sounds totally made up to me. Yes there was a lot of pain, but painkillers are on hand to manage it. The pain would have to be worse if you’re in an accident, and waiting with no pain killers for the ambulance to arrive.

Once I was watching the winter olympics on TV, that event where they do aeriel tricks on skis, and one contestant landed wrong and broke her leg. She screamed more intensely than I did in labor.

Post # 11
8 posts

I have to admit that I totally thought labour pains wouldn’t be nearly as painful as you often hear.  I was wrong.  VERY wrong.  It was really bad and in my 24 (!) hours of labour, which by the way, was not responding to the epidural I kept receiving, I thought no way would I ever forget this god awful pain.  Once my baby was out, all was forgotten.  Now I have a countdown to when I can start trying to conceive baby #2.  

Post # 12
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@beetee123:  I wonder if that husband’s stance would change if being kicked in the balls produce his child rather than nothing but pain.  I’m pretty sure no women would willingly go through the pain of childbirth if they weren’t expecting a baby at the end of it.

I’ve also never been pregnant, and giving birth scares the shit out of me.  Although one friend said she tells people to think of it like a marathon – it sucks and is painful at the time, but you get such a great sense of accomplishment at the end of it that it makes up for it.  I was happy to hear that, rather than horror stories of how awful it is.

Post # 13
1802 posts
Buzzing bee

@sourcandy:  yeah, I thought the same thing! I think having a baby at the end is definitely worth the pain 100%. Men are pretty wrapped up in the fact that getting kicked in the groin hurts. I’m like I’m pretty sure if someone kicked me in the vagina it would hurt too, it just doesn’t happen that often LOL. I also tell them we have our boobs to watch out for. 

I used to play soccer, and I had all male coaches. They would yell at us for trying to protect our chests when doing chest balls saying that it didn’t hurt. How would they know!?


Post # 14
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Giving birth is painful, trust me I have a son who is now 9. But its all worth it. I gave birth without any pain killer, no epidural, and it’s a natural birth. Believe it or not as soon as I saw my baby the pain was gone… It’s amazing!

Post # 15
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Stace126:  Women are genetically wired to bear the pain of childbirth. If not we wouldn’t continue procreating. 

Post # 16
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@beachbride1216:  Not to be pedantic, but what you say makes no sense. Pain is a symptom; it is not something we are “wired for.” Folks have survived having their limbs amputated without anesthetics — this doesn’t mean they’re “genetically wired” for such pain. Childbirth hurts because we are peculiar mammals whose brains take up a lot of space. Thankfully, although our infants’ heads are too large to fit comfortably through our pelvises, they are born “prematurely” before they can care for themselves (hence all the talk of the “fourth trimester”); that makes it possible for a newborn to pass through the ring of a female’s pelvis, but not easily!

(One reason why childbirth used to be the most dangerous thing a woman could ever undertake!)

@Stace126: Modern medicine is a wonderful thing. If you’re afraid of the pain, then direct your praises to the miracle workers who invented epidurals.

(I always find it odd that we champion shunning modern science and painkillers only when it comes to the single medical event that only women engage in)…

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