- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Our Wedding: We are having a very intimate wedding (only about 25 guests), which is a semi-destination “wedding weekend” at a cozy little lodge up in the mountains about 2 hours from where we live. We sent out save-the-dates in January with accommodation information. The wedding has been talked about amongst our guests throughout the year. We sent out invitations in mid-July (again with accommodation information. This was NOT a surprise.
The Situation: Despite the fact that our guests are only our good friends, that we have given tons and tons of notice, and that everyone “says” they are coming… we are now up to our RSVP deadline and still missing HALF of our RSVP’s.
But what’s really concerning is that our room block at the lodge expires on September 5th. After that, the rooms are open to the public, and it’s a small lodge so it has the potential to fill up fast! So far, the only people who have booked rooms are our immediate family members and ONE other friend.
I’m super frustrated because everyone has acted so excited to stay and have all expressed that they are totally on board with our “wedding weekend” plan… but yet so many have failed to RSVP and book a room, knowing that the room block expires (written clearly on it’s own line!).
I’m considering sending out a group facebook message to remind everyone that this is just a couple days away.
What I WISH I could say: I can’t believe I have to nag this many grown adults to RSVP and book a hotel room. If you say to us over and over again that yes you are going, and yes you plan to say… then what is the big effing deal!?!?!!!! And if not, have fun driving all the way down the mountain after a night of full, top-shelf open bar which you couldn’t enjoy, because it’s not like their is a cheaper Motel 6 up the road!
What I am actually thinking of sending: Hey guys! I just wanted to reach out and give a quick reminder about our wedding. The Lodge will only hold rooms for us until Sept. 5th. After that, they will release the room block and attempt to fill the lodge with other people. I just want to make sure that everyone who wants to stay is able to stay, because after that the rooms can potentially fill up quickly since it’s a smaller place.
FWIW, yes I DO realize that if they don’t book their room that it’s their decision. This would be my ONLY follow up effort — after that, what they do is what they do.
BEFORE I SEND THIS MESSAGE, can I get some feedback? Thanks!