Is this guy behavior or is he just immature? Gross!!!

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee

It isn’t just immature, it is sadistic. He knows you don’t like it, he does it anyway. Unless he is so dense he doesn’t realize it is grossing you out and putting you off him. 

Once in our first year, I was in the shower and DH came in and went #2 in the toilet, and I started yelling that it stunk, and he laughed and thought it was hilarious. I then threw up in the shower, and started crying. He got serious really fast, and never again did that. He felt so bad that he made me sick and apologized.

He made it a point when we bought our house, that it has 2 bathrooms!

Post # 47
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556 posts
Busy bee

mrsjersey :  lol no. I don’t have a brother. But I’ve known a few guys with younger siblings they liked to torment in various disgusting ways reminiscent of this nastiness.

 

Post # 48
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Bumble Beekeeper

I would try talking to him in a neutral time and place, ie not in the moment, so that he knows you are quite serious about asking him to stop. He’s being immature, gross, and disrespectful. 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

palmtree5 :  That is not average male behaviour, it’s immature and a major violation of your boundaries if he keeps going when you’ve asked him to stop. I’ve busted my DH rearranging things in that area while sitting on the couch but he never wipes his hand on anything or shoves it in my face. 

No sex until he stops it mightn’t be a bad idea.

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

palmtree5 :  Thank you for the update, I’m glad to hear he listened.  🙂

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

That’s really gross. No, my husband does not do anything like this.

I would not be happy though with your partner not listening to your boundaries though. If you tell him no, he should be listening to no. This is a red flag and deserves a serious conversation.

eta: Saw update. Glad it was worked out.

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