(Closed) Is this horrible?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If you are not close now, I don’t see why you would feel terrible. I wasn’t invited to one of my best friends from high schools wedding and she will not be invited to mine because she got mad at me about a decision I made in my own life. You are going to be surrounded by the people who matter most to you and your FI on your wedding day. Enjoy the people that are there. I don’t think you should worry about it.

Post # 4
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14503 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Best advise is not to put wedding things on FB or only allow people that you want to see those post see them, use the blocking feature for each wedding post. 

Post # 5
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3943 posts
Honey bee

@VioletSky:  You dont owe anyone an explanation, especially someone you used to be friends with 8 years ago. You guys arent friends,  so why would she be invited?

I just wouldnt make mention of who you chose to invite and not invite. If anyone makes a comment you just say “We wanted a small wedding with just family and close friends”. End of discussion!

Post # 6
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901 posts
Busy bee

Just say it was a small wedding and you invited your current closest friends. End of story.

Post # 7
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3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@tksjewelry:  +1

We didn’t do anything on FB except to change the status from In a Relationship to Engaged to Married.

We did an unplugged wedding and I set my privacy settings to approve everything prior to going live (even checkins and status updates).

Post # 8
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t see any reason why you should be worried about this she clearly had moved on and has no wishes on reconnected with you. That being said I don’t see any reason why any wedding plans should be broadcast all over fb if your friends list isn’t only close friends and family.

Post # 9
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363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think you should feel bad for not inviting her if you aren’t really close to her now, especially since she chose to ignore your previous attempts at reconnecting with her.  The guest list thing is hard, and I’m totally with you on feeling bad about not being able to invite certain friends due to space/budget constraints.  Just focus on the fact that your nearest and dearest friends and family will be with you to share in your wedding day! 

Post # 10
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It would have been silly to invite someone whom you’ve had no contact with for 8 years.

Post # 11
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11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I won’t be giving anyone an explanation of why I didn’t invite them. If they are rude enough to ask, I’ll give them the honest reason why – I don’t feel like we are good enough friends to have invited them. 

Post # 12
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10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

If you haven’t had contact with her for 8 years, I doubt not getting an invite will surprise her. But as PPs said, limit the stuff you post on FB. 

Post # 14
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2608 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

FWIW, we eloped, BUT, since we had the dress, bouquet, photog etc… the pics I posted on fb look like I had a full-on wedding.  Not a SINGLE person contacted me to ask “where was my invite??”  so this whole thing might blow over for you too 🙂

Post # 15
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No don’t worry about it; you can’t please everyone and everyone will not (and should not) expect to be invited.

My husband’s family was pretty ticked we didn’t invite his mother’s cousin’s youngest son and his fiancee to our wedding almost 4 months ago. They will get over it – I promise!

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