- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2009
That recent shower post got me thinking and I am wondering if I’m doing something in poor taste (well not me, but you’ll get my drift). I’m having 2 showers, one in Boston where I live (as does FI, all his fam & friends), and one in Cleveland, my hometown, where all my fam is, as is the wedding.
When I first got engaged my great aunt offered to throw me my shower. I ended up finding out that she was planning to pawn all the work off on my 2nd cousin (her daughter) and other 2nd cousin (her DIL). It got dramatic, and I hated that, so I pulled out of the shower. My mom suggested that my sister (MOH) throw me the Cleveland shower at my parent’s house. My sister was fine with that, as were the aunt/cuz’s.. so now we’re planning on that.
Next, my Boston shower is being hosted by my FMIL. She really wants to host the shower and my FSIL (also a BM) has hopped on that train as well. That one will at least be at a restaurant, but…
I’m just wondering if it’s really bad that technically family is throwing me both of my showers? I wish that my bridesmaids would step up and throw at least one of them, as I have 8 bridesmaids but besides the two sister’s hopping on to the two mother’s plans, no one stepped up. I know they are busy, I know everyone lives in different places, and I also know part of it is my own fault because I’m too laid back to ever suggest they do anything.. but it makes me a little sad that none of them have been involved whatsoever, (even come look for dresses, etc). Anyway that’s besides the point, though it is a little bit tied together. Do BM’s usually step up and do these things, take on these tasks, on their own?? Or do brides usually ask? If the latter, then at least I know it’s my own fault, but if it’s the former, I’m wondering why no one has been involved at all. (These are my 2 best friends from hs, 3 best friends from college, Sis, FSIL, and cousin so it’s not like it’s random people I’m not close to).
Anyway, I am wondering if you guys think I should pull out of either or both of the showers because I really don’t want it to look like my family and my FI’s family are trying to just get us gifts. I would be totally fine not having a shower, honestly.. the idea of being the center of attention makes me nervous, anyway!
Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks!! 🙂 🙂