Post # 1
Ok under normal circumstances I wouldn’t consider this but this maybe an exception.
My brother and SIL married last year but are having a wedding in May, in our hometown of New Orleans. We all now live in a small town in S.C. I’ve been engaged since June but set my date for June 2014 as to not impose on their time and to allow myself more time to plan and save. I am also serving as a bridesmaid in their wedding. The bridal shop she is using in New Orleans. Due to a death in our family, we are making the drive down this weekend and are using this opportunity to go to the bridal shop and pick up our dresses that have come in. We may or may not be getting fitted while we are there but as I do not live there and will not be back before the wedding , I dont think it would be wise to get my dress altered there.
My question is would it be inappropriate for me to also use this opportunity to try on some wedding dresses of my own? Its a great bridal shop that Im already familiar with with a huge inventory and the shops where we live are lacking and in so many ways plus there’s a trunk show this weekend. I have no plans on visiting New Orleans again this year other than for their wedding so this opportunity may not present itself again.
Post # 3
@lulubird: I’m on board for you trying on dresses when you’re there as long as everyone else in your family is okay with it!
Post # 4
@lulubird: I wouldn’t have a problem with it if you tried them on when we were finished BM shopping. You could ask your FSIL if she minds and if she does, can you go back the next day or the day before?
Post # 5
I don’t see a problem with it but I’m sure others will. Do you plan on taking your SIL with you?
Post # 6
I’m in the minority here — this excursion to the bridal shop is supposed to be about your SIL, and she may get upset if you take over the appointment to try on wedding dresses. If I were the bride, I’d be offended by a BM taking this moment from my wedding and making it about hers. Perhaps you could go back at a different time on the weekend with a family member for your own appointment?
Post # 7
If you are just picking up your BM dress, I think it’s fine. If you are picking out bm dresses with your SIL, then no.
but why would you want to buy a dress so far from where you live?
edit: I would just ask your SIL if its ok and maybe say you’d like her advice, just to keep everything smooth.
Post # 8
@mrsztobee: She is coming to supervise the dress fitting and I think she is excited to see us in the dress forthe first time.
Post # 9
I think it is totally fine!
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum
I don’t think it is ok to do this. It isn’t your trip. Sorry, I wouldn’t do it
Post # 11
@abbie017: that’s kind of why I asked cause under normal circumstances it would be rude. But I think my SIL might understand. Also my MOH is also in her wedding and will be present as well. I dont really expect the rest of her bridal party to be present.
Post # 12
@lulubird: Definitely ask your FSIL. I personally wouldn’t care if my BMs did this (in fact one of them just got engaged), but each bride is going to be different. I would be worried about purchasing a dress so far from home though, do you have someone near you who will do the alterations?
Post # 13
This really should be all about her. What if you went back that afternoon to try on dresses at a different time – or if you’re staying all weekend – what about the next day. I definately wouldn’t do it during her appointment. Plus you have a whole ‘nother year, could it wait till later? Maybe you could go down a day or two early for the wedding and slip away for a couple hours.
I can’t imagine how I would have felt if my bridesmaid would have been trying on dresses instead of looking at me with tears in her eyes when I walked out in ‘the’ dress.
Terrible story: I went to Bride’s gown shopping event last year where the MOH showed up with her baby. She handed the screaming child over to the MOB and proceeded to try on dresses. She wasn’t even engaged.
Post # 14
I think its ok as long as it’s separate fron her appointment. Do the bm thing after it’s all said & done then start your own appointment.
Post # 15
@PinkPinstripes: we’re just picking up maybe getting fitted. I’ve already have bad experiences at 2 of the three local salons so I’ll have to drive at least 2 hours anyway to dress shop. And South Carolina doesn’t really have a good selection of stores.
Post # 17
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@lulubird: I think it’s fine, just mention it to your SIL so she isn’t taken by surprise and feel like you’re stealing her thunder. But she already ordered her own dress, right? So it’s not like she’s dress shopping? Honestly, I don’t think it’s a big deal at all, especially since it’s a long trip away from you and there’s better selection (plus a trunk show). I’d go for it!