Post # 1
So I went to pick up a Mother’s Day card and FI asked if I could pick one up for him too.
FI’s mother hates me and along with his sisters tried to ruin our wedding shower which ended up with FI basically telling them off and they haven’t spoken since. Well of course the other day she called FI pretending like nothing happened, perfect timing trying to reach our right before Mother’s Day. Our shower was a month ago. So anyways we are trying to keep peace just until the wedding to get through this without too much bloodshed. So he decided he will at least send her a card.
Of course I couldn’t buy a card that said how she is the most amazing mother and all her love and support so I found one the said the following:
“On Mother’s Day be as kind to yourself as you are to everyone else”
Is that mean? She would have to admit how nasty she is to be offended by this card. Would you go get another card?
Post # 3
Hahahaha I LOVE IT!!! Its a little bitchy but if hallmark makes it then it can’t be that offensive right? I say send it! Did you show it to FI?
Post # 4
OMG I am going to go look for that right now. i love it
Post # 5
My advice is to get one that says “Have a Wonderful Mother’s Day” or something generic to that effect. Stay non-commital here and just wish her well. Don’t try to ruffle her feathers, it will not bode well for you.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s mean… like you said, if she’s offended, it doesn’t mean YOU think she’s mean, it means SHE thinks she’s mean… It’s a mothers day card, I mean there’s not a whole lot of room for accusations with it though if she is the paranoid type she might figure out a way to make anything you say offensive…
Post # 7
I would get another card. Only because as much as I would love to send the one you have I am afraid it would stir the pot. She may go completely balistic.
I would just tread lightly… at least until the wedding is over… then you can send her a card that says whatever you want…
It will be interesting to see what she does when your and your FI are ready to start a family… she may regret her actions now.
Post # 8
I don’t think it would be a good idea to send that card because of your feelings behind it. I think if you can’t pick out a card in good faith for her, you should have your finace pick one out. It’s his mom, so he should have to pick the card.
Post # 9
hahahahahaha i love it. seriously. but i’m kind of snarky. so don’t take my advice 🙂
Post # 10
I think its awesome! hahahaha! PERFECT! 😉
Post # 11
@JennyChicago- I laughed hysterically when I was walking out of the store, I’m so not the passive aggressive type! I told him when I was laughing and he said he doesn’t care if he pisses her off, I just told him that if she takes offensive then that is admitting shes a b*tch.
@fabulouslyannonymous- I need to find one of those. Everything I found said how wonderful she is.
Post # 12
I think we might have bought the same card. I had a really hard time with that task as well. When all the cards say thanks for your support, it just didn’t really feel true to our situation. I didn’t even think of the card that way
Post # 13
Lol I love it; but then again I don’t really have a relationship with my FMIL. I guess maybe Jacgi is right…… he should pick out the card….. lol
Post # 14
It IS perfect but I would maybe save it for next year and give her a generic one like fabulouslyanonymous suggested this year.
That really is too funny. I love it!
Post # 15
Bullseye…..get it in the mail before you chicken out. I think it’s perfection.
Post # 16
@jslabride- Exactly my point! LOL
@Ms.Caniche- She already told me she doesn’t want anymore grandchildren and she is a heavy drinker so even if she was nice to me my kids wouldn’t be around her.
@Jacqi- He wants to buy a card and white out everything, that was his suggestion. I might just buy a blank card.