- 2 years ago
I recently got married and my husband is great however his family is a different story. I have had problems with his mom since like a year ago, luckily we keep it down and it is hard to tell. His brother Kal has a girlfriend named Katie whom everyone in the family despises except his mom, this girl has managed to be mean to absolutely everyone. Anyways although I had my problems with this girl and his mom clearly favoritized her, I chose to be the bigger person and ignore it. I am an artist and after Katie added me on facebook and saw some of my work all of a sudden she was one too(Shes pretty good, I may add) for christmas his mom gave me clothes that were two sizes too small(its obvious im not a small) and a boring book, yet gave Katie paints and artistic stuff and then looked at me and said “Dont you paint too?” even though I’m the actually professional artist. I said nothing of course and luckily didnt feel too bad about the gift since I already owned all the items given to Katie. When the real drama started was the next day when the parents left to go to store, Kal was outside and my husband and I were in a room across the house.We overheard Katie yelling at my husbands 6 year old niece Lily, she had lily in a room with the door closed because she was “changing her” and was her exact words to the lily were “hurry up, you need to get dressed go outside and leave me the hell alone”. Even though No one asked her to change Lily especially since Lily can change herself and does it everyday. I wanted to say something but my husband told me not to since Katie is half deaf and it may seem like I was “picking on her” luckily Lily told her parents herself. Fast forward to 4th of july, my mother in law now sees the monster Katie is and constantly talks bad about her while being bffs with her. That day I was asked to watch Lily at the family home by myself since her parents were at work and at school, Katie invited herself over, the proceeded to say in front of Lily that “Lily’s mom must not want her since we have to take care of her all the time” (Lilys mom hates Katie and has never asked her to watch Lily) I quickly redirected Lily to a different area of the home because I did not want Katie to say anything else that may hurt Lily. later that day Katie came up to me and was speaking ill of Lily (saying things like Lily is a spoiled brat, she is so annoying she gets on my last nerve) so I got angry and told her to please refrain from doing so atleast around the Lily since she was old enough to understand and tell her parents about it like she had done last christmas. Katie started saying Lily was a liar, that she had never yelled at her, I told her I heard her as well as my husband so just do us a favor and treat the child well. I told her everything in a calm matter but Katie got overly angry. After this my brother in law hates me he even tried to tell me that Katie was not in control of what she did or said because she was half deaf (having a best friend that is fully deaf I knew this was BS), and his mom tried to convince people that maybe I misunderstood Katie and that in fact she was not picking or being mean to Lily (although other family members have seen her say things about Lily including Lily’s parents). Katie called his cousins and told them I was a mean horrible person so when they finally met me at my wedding they were jerks and my bridesmaids caught them laughing at me. I am tired of his family, every boyfriend I had previous to my husband had families that loved me (in fact many are still in contact with me and even sent a wedding gift) so I do not understand why this is happening I had never experienced it. Please give me your thoughts on this.
I plan on staying away from his family because I do not seem to understand his dynamic, I might also note I am good friends with the rest of my husbands family like his step father, father, step mom, and his sisters. (all of which Katie has been horrible to)