Post # 1
First I want to state some positives because this emotional board seems to forget those from time to time so I would like to highlight those first.
I am crazy lucky. I’ve taken on TONS of DIY projects and FI and MOH have been there all the way for all of it. I have the BEST FMIL in the world and am so incredibly blessed and blown away with how sweet and supportive she is. I talk to her probably 2 hours a week over the phone and she and I go shopping together for no reason. It’s awesome.
DIY projects and all… I have tons of stuff done. All I have are a couple of tiny projects left and one vendor to book, photobooth, placecards, signs, table numbers, menus (I only need 10), and assembling photos to give to my FMIL so she can make a slideshow. The vendor I have to book is a DJ but I have a couple things in the works for that. Then all I have to do is round up my stuff for the wedding and go. How awesome is that? These projects are very minimal and I could probably do them all in a busy Saturday.
That being said… I’m still stressing out! Every time we get to a milestone date before the wedding… 3 months… 2 months… 5 weeks… 1 month now… when I think about the wedding this strong nervous feeling comes over me and I get all anxious and worried. I’ve made lists and gone over them tons of times… so I know it’s not a “maybe I’m forgetting something” feeling. It’s not a cold feet thing, I’m crazy for the FI and we are excited to grow older together and I don’t want him to change a thing (unless it’s turning off football, but hey I’ll choose my battles 😉 hehe) It’s definitely not a FMIL thing. My parents are icky but I’m past that now. What is my problem? I have no reason to feel nervous but my heart is racing with nervousness!
Is it normal to feel so nervous for no reason?
Post # 3
I totally do!! I would say everyone does. I’m not nervous about the marriage – I’m just anxious for the wedding. What I tell myself over and over is – if we’re there, the pastor is there, I have a dress and we have food, then everything will be fine. Just three people and some food, and you’re GOOD!!!
It’s completely normal. It’s a very big, important event, but it’s like Carrie on Sex and the City – don’t let your wedding get too big (even if it’s just in your mind) for Big.
That being said, I’m excited for you. Mine is about 6 weeks after yours. So, you’ll have to tell me how it went!! Good luck with harnessing those feelings. You can do it!!
Post # 4
I think that is absolutely normal! In fact, I think it’d be worse if you weren’t at least a little nervous. Every woman and man has to evaluate and possible re-evaluate the decisions they make in their lives. And I can’t help but assume everyone goes through periods where they want to make sure what they’re doing is right. Because after all, love is only half the battle, every married person I know reminds me that marriage is work! Maybe you’re channeling the nervous energy or stress about the wedding day itself into deeper things, we women like to drive ourselves crazy like that sometimes!
In the end I’m sure you’re both meant to be together and the wedding will be wonderful but the marriage will be even better! Good luck.
Post # 5
I’m nervous about the public part, not about marrying my FI. I don’t like to be the center of attention, I don’t like to speak in public, I don’t like all eyes on me.. the thought of it makes me freak out. Plus, you hear everyone say that things go wrong at every wedding, so you sit and wonder.. what is going to go wrong at my wedding? So you worry about stuff going wrong before anything even goes wrong!
Post # 6
A wedding is a big thing; you’re getting married! It’s always normal to be nervous about big events. Or at least I hope it is, because I sure am 🙂
Post # 7
I was a totally mess before the wedding and SO stressed out. Funny thing happened a few days before, I realized that none of my stressing mattered. What happens will happen and in the end the only thing that matters is that I’ll be married to my husband. It was such a HUGE relief to just let go finally. I know this is easy to say from this side of the whole event, but trust me, you’ll feel the same way later too.
First, do something ONLY for yourself (nails done, hair done, get a massage) – anything you really like that makes YOU feel good. Second, ask for help where you need it. Third, let go of what doesn’t matter (seriously, I freaked out over things having to be packed JUST right – totally not worth it).
Post # 8
i think it’s normal because projects, etc aside, it is still a major life event. and you want it to be perfect. there’s a lot going on and a lot to juggle. just remember to take breaks and ask for help!
Post # 9
I’m at exactly the same point as you. I was walking down the street today (after buying my honeymoon bikini-yay) and was trying to figure this feeling out.
I think for me it’s partly that I’ve been engaged for almost 2 years, this day has been built up in my mind and everyone elses too for a long time. I’m just hoping everything is going to come together on the day coz you only get one chance, you can’t do it again if something goes wrong.
I know that the days before and after the wedding have a lot going on and I’m afraid I’ll forget something (despite my 3 timelines and checklists) and I’m afraid I’m going to stress out. So I’m stressing about stressing out lol.
It’s also excitedness that our day is almost here, it’s almost our turn, we’re almost husband and wife.
I say embrace the feelings you are having coz chances are you won’t get them again-this is your wedding day.
Try to have fun, I’ll be thinking of you on that Saturday 24 days from now : )
Post # 10
@cobalt – i totally agree…
I have spoken about this with my BF already, when we are talking about how ready we are to get engaged and hence get married – i am absolutely terrified about standing at the front of the church with so many people looking at us! Not to mention first dance, cutting the cake etc! Then all the photos 🙂 eep!!