(Closed) Is this normal?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I totally do!!  I would say everyone does.  I’m not nervous about the marriage – I’m just anxious for the wedding.  What I tell myself over and over is – if we’re there, the pastor is there, I have a dress and we have food, then everything will be fine.  Just three people and some food, and you’re GOOD!!! 

It’s completely normal.  It’s a very big, important event, but it’s like Carrie on Sex and the City – don’t let your wedding get too big (even if it’s just in your mind) for Big. 

That being said, I’m excited for you.  Mine is about 6 weeks after yours.  So, you’ll have to tell me how it went!!  Good luck with harnessing those feelings.  You can do it!!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think that is absolutely normal!  In fact, I think it’d be worse if you weren’t at least a little nervous.  Every woman and man has to evaluate and possible re-evaluate the decisions they make in their lives.  And I can’t help but assume everyone goes through periods where they want to make sure what they’re doing is right.  Because after all, love is only half the battle, every married person I know reminds me that marriage is work!  Maybe you’re channeling the nervous energy or stress about the wedding day itself into deeper things, we women like to drive ourselves crazy like that sometimes!

In the end I’m sure you’re both meant to be together and the wedding will be wonderful but the marriage will be even better!  Good luck. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m nervous about the public part, not about marrying my FI. I don’t like to be the center of attention, I don’t like to speak in public, I don’t like all eyes on me.. the thought of it makes me freak out. Plus, you hear everyone say that things go wrong at every wedding, so you sit and wonder.. what is going to go wrong at my wedding? So you worry about stuff going wrong before anything even goes wrong!

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

A wedding is a big thing; you’re getting married! It’s always normal to be nervous about big events. Or at least I hope it is, because I sure am 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I was a totally mess before the wedding and SO stressed out.  Funny thing happened a few days before, I realized that none of my stressing mattered.  What happens will happen and in the end the only thing that matters is that I’ll be married to my husband.  It was such a HUGE relief to just let go finally.  I know this is easy to say from this side of the whole event, but trust me, you’ll feel the same way later too. 

First, do something ONLY for yourself (nails done, hair done, get a massage) – anything you really like that makes YOU feel good.  Second, ask for help where you need it.  Third, let go of what doesn’t matter (seriously, I freaked out over things having to be packed JUST right – totally not worth it).

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i think it’s normal because projects, etc aside, it is still a major life event. and you want it to be perfect. there’s a lot going on and a lot to juggle. just remember to take breaks and ask for help!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m at exactly the same point as you. I was walking down the street today (after buying my honeymoon bikini-yay) and was trying to figure this feeling out.

I think for me it’s partly that I’ve been engaged for almost 2 years, this day has been built up in my mind and everyone elses too for a long time. I’m just hoping everything is going to come together on the day coz you only get one chance, you can’t do it again if something goes wrong.

I know that the days before and after the wedding have a lot going on and I’m afraid I’ll forget something (despite my 3 timelines and checklists) and I’m afraid I’m going to stress out. So I’m stressing about stressing out lol.

It’s also excitedness that our day is almost here, it’s almost our turn, we’re almost husband and wife.

I say embrace the feelings you are having coz chances are you won’t get them again-this is your wedding day.

Try to have fun, I’ll be thinking of you on that Saturday 24 days from now : )

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cobalt – i totally agree… 

I have spoken about this with my BF already, when we are talking about how ready we are to get engaged and hence get married – i am absolutely terrified about standing at the front of the church with so many people looking at us! Not to mention first dance, cutting the cake etc! Then all the photos 🙂 eep!!

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