Is this normal?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kitty126:  Yep! I would suggest you turn your phone off for a few days and you and your FI have a day to yourselves. Get a couple’s massage, spend the day eating at your favorite places and go see a movie.

Weddings make people crazy. At the end of the day, you will be married to your best friend.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Time for a quick break. It will help recharge your batteries for the end run.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kitty126:  I’m sorry to hear this, and I don’t think it’s normal. Stress and hassle IS normal, but it sounds like your wedding has gone beyond a bit of stress.  Is there any small way you can “take charge”? e.g. personalise the ceremony or reception (e.g. change your vows without telling anyone), change the involvement of the bridal party (e.g. do a sweetheart table so you don’t have to sit with them, do less photos with them).

In the end, focus on the positives, and so long as everyone has a good time and you are married at the end of the day, it is a success.

EDIT: Looking at all the other replies, maybe I’m wrong and it is pretty normal…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

Can you take a weekend or even a day away to just disconnect from everyone and go away?  That would stress me out too!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I remember feeling the exact same way! It was about a month to the wedding and I was wishing we had just eloped. I had a lot of selfish people to deal with along the way. But I just kept reminding myself that I was marrying the man of my dreams and that’s all that mattered. And you know what? It was the best day of my life, and now I know things about certain family and friends I wouldn’t have otherwise. Just ride the wave, focus on your future husband, and your future husband only and all will be beautiful 🙂 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@kitty126:  This is totally normal.  I just got married in November- and I was SO over it the weeks before.  Tired of planning, tired of my mom, tired of spending money.  

To top it off, I was bloated as all h#ll the day of my wedding- my face is puffy (I gain lots of water weight pre-period)- and I was sick the week before so lots of details didn’t get accomplished- and there wasn’t anything I could really do about it.

 

Hang in there- you’re not alone!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@kitty126:  i very much felt that way.  our families were causing so many issues.  I found the most calming relief in just shutting the bedroom door and holding my (then) fiance and talking about how much we love each other, what we love about each other and how excited we were to officially be a family of two in a few days :).  the memory is still one of my favorite (pre)wedding memories. 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I feel you 1000000%!! I’m so over it, I won’t even plan it- I’ve been on strike for years! haha. Any time I try to discuss what I want or an idea I like, somebody tries to correct me. And nobody can keep on consistently good terms with eachother for me to not worry about drama ruining my wedding. So f*ck it! I told my man if he wants to plan it, send me an invitation.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Yep, I think every bride has that “moment.” I agree with PPs- take a little break. (including staying off the Bee!), go out to dinner w/ FI- NO wedding talk.

I LOVE the idea MissJoker wrote about- how sweet! Easy to get wrapped up in all the wedding b&*#&*, and forget why you’re really doing this.

Hang in there! 🙂

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