Post # 1
I’m a bm in an upcoming friend’s wedding. She won’t let me get my haircut. Is this normal? I really want to cut my hair short right now, like a pixie, but she says I have to wait until after her wedding so it can be long for her wedding day. My hair is driving me nuts. I don’t know if I can wait the 7 more weeks!
I feel like I won’t treat my bm this way when my wedding comes around. Shouldn’t she not care? I’m her friend, why does it matter how my hair looks?
Post # 3
It is very normal for some brides. They want control over EVERY part of their maids looks from hair to toe nail polish and everything in between. Not me but lots of brides do. My maids keep asking me questions like that, and I’m like I dont care.
Post # 4
Unfortunately, this bride’s attitude is becoming increasingly common. I still think it’s unreasonable, though.
Post # 5
Stupidest thing I’ve ever heard…go get YOUR hair cut the way YOU want…what’s she going to do? Take your birthday away?
Post # 6
Tell her you’ll wear a wig. If she doesn’t like that, show her Beyonce’s hair. That’s a wig. So it’ll be fine.
Post # 7
Sounds like your friend is having a bridezilla moment
Post # 8
Some brides are just like that. They have a “vision” and thankyouverymuch, their wedding is going to happen exactly the way they picture it.
I think it’s pretty crazy. I understand nail polish and jewelry to an extent, but I think controlling your hair is a little ridiculous.
Post # 9
Totally not normal. Now if you wanted to do something outrageous (like dye it green) I could understand. but a simple cut? No, that’s unreasonable.
Just get it cut.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
That’s an unreasonable request for the bride to make. She’s certainly not alone in asking this of you, but that doesn’t make it normal or reasonable. You are your own person. She can tell you want to wear and how to generally style yourself as you come, but she cannot dictate who you are and what your body looks like.
Post # 11
Like someone said, becoming normal, but still NOT reasonable! grrr…
Post # 12
Unfortunately, I think this is normal behavior for some brides and it’s very sad how bridezilla-ish they can get. 7 weeks is a long time to wait to do what you want so you should just do it, I would hope that in the grand scheme of things for your friend that what a bridesmaid hair looks like is really not all that important.
Post # 13
Has she already paid for a hairdresser to do your hair on the day?
Post # 14
You should probably talk with her, and let her know you care a lot about her, and helping her dream come true, but you really gotta cut your hair, it’s drivin ya nuts!
Tell her you don’t want her to shave when you get married! 😛
Post # 15
no, she says some friends of a friend are going to do our hair on the day. my hair is not like most people’s though and can’t just be tamed by any old person. I will need to do it myself on the big day if we aren’t going to a real salon, and I don’t think she understands that. Anyways, my hair is just below shoulder length right now, is all frizzy and thick and I’d like to get it cut to a pixie so it is easier to maintain. But this friend is very girly and I don’t think she likes pixie haircuts on girls. maybe i’ll just get it trimmed and layered right now then. she won’t notice that probably.
Post # 16
NOT COOL no matter what! This could very possibly be my #1 wedding pet peeve. Do what you want with your hair!!