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Is this ok? (re thank you cards)

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
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    bluebook    February 13, 2010   Miami, Florida

    Our wedding was 3 weeks ago.

    I want to make very nice thank you cards with a 4x6 of one of our pro pictures. I also want to insert a nice 5x7 (in some cases 8x10) print of one of the professional photographer's pictures of the person/family we are thanking.

    This will take at least another month to execute, which means our thank you cards won't go out until two months after the wedding, possibly 3 if something delays it.

    Am I right that this would be okay etiquette-wise?  I'd rather avoid sending multiple cards but if I'm comitting a huge faux pas I might consider it ... help? :)

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I believe that thank yous should be sent out sooner than that but I don't know if there is official etiquette on that or not.

     
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    I'd say that would be ok... but I'd prioritize. If Aunt Gloria wants a thank you note right away, I'd send hers out. But hold on to your cousin's if you know they're more lax about it, and wait to send so you don't have to send separately. :)

     
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    hermitcrab    June 2010   NYC

    I think within 3 months should be okay.  They will understand when they receive your picture with the card!  I would definitely send out as many as possible sooner than later.  You can also send out the thank yous now, and send the pictures with holiday cards if you're worried about etiquette.  (Also, I'm the kind of person who would just want them done and out, so that's what I would probably do!)

     
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    hopewell    July 31, 2010   Baltimore, Maryland

    If I were you I'd send out thank you cards now and the photos with holiday cards like eriqua suggested.  Not necessarily winter holidays, you could do 4th of July cards or Easter or something.  But only for a small guest list, if you had a huge guest list that might be really expensive because of postage.  I don't think you're making a huge etiquette mistake if you wait, but especially for the older generation you might consider making a few thank you phone calls, so they know you're not just forgetting about it entirely. 

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    That is a good question and while I don't know what etiquette officially states about the time you have, this is what I think. I think 3 months is acceptable, but be prepared for some people to ask if you received their gift and start asking where the thank you card is. If you know anyone like this, then I would call them or email to personally thank them and tell them the thank you card is being made and will be in the mail within the next couple of months.

     

     
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    mrs-to-be    August 20, 2010   Netherlands

    My original plan for sending out thank yous was within 4-6 weeks of the wedding. We're now in week 5 and I have yet to start on them! I think sending them out within 2-3 months is fine really, especially since you are going to make them special for each and every one of them. I am sure that even if someone was wondering why they hadn't recieved any yet, when they recieve your lovely photos they'll understand and love it :)

     
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    cakegal    August 14, 2010  

    3 months is too long. Send them out now and send the pictures out separately.

    The guideline I have heard is 2 weeks for gifts given before the wedding and 1-2 months for gifts given on or after the wedding.

     
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    Pia2010    November 26, 2009  

    Anything within a 6 month time period is fine. I think your idea is personal and appropriate.  I would be fine with waiting a few months for the thank you.  So long as I get a thank you, I'm a happy guest!! Best wishes hun.

     

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