Post # 1
Due to fnancial reasons I cant have the big wedding that I would like. So me and the FI are going to do a park ceremony with just our parents and siblings. My bff is going to be my MOH and his brother is going to be his bestman. My sister plays the violin so she will be providing the music for me and my dad plus my MOH to walk to.
Now the ceremony is covered but all in all with the parents, silbings, and the minister it comes to about 21 people. Since we are not having a reception we are going to go out to eat to olive garden (FI Fav Place) Is it going to be weird doing this? Also should I keep on my wedding dress or change into like a party style dress?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s weird to do that. I have seen lots of wedding similar and thought of doing it myself when I started planning! It sounds lovely, intimate, and pretty stress free!
As for your second question, I guess it would depend on how “wedding” your wedding dress is. Honestly I would wonder why someone was wearing a formal wedding gown at Olive Garden.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@IrvingButterfly: I think your plan sounds good! Personally I wouldn’t change, but it’s up to you and probably depends on how fancy of a dress you get!
P.S. Does the Olive Garden near you take reservations? Waiting for a 21-top might suck. I’d personally look for a restaurant that took reservations but I’m inpatient like that!
Post # 5
My mom loves olive garden just like him and she goes to our local 1 like 3 times a week lol so she has asked the manager already and he agreed to hold a section for us. Its like a room set off to it self. Now as far as the dress goes, im still looking. I was thinking about getting a formal dress for the wedding and then changing into a nice cocktail party type of dress for the dinner.
Post # 6
@IrvingButterfly: That sounds fine…but can you call the restaurant and see if they have a private room or something? Many restaurants have a private dining room or two for larger groups so they can have more privacy. Also I would make sure they take reservations because I know some places might not do that and you wouldn’t want to just show up.
I will say I would find it really strange if you were in a formal wedding gown just eating with everyone else at Olive Garden. I would find it strange for any restaurant…like I was intruding on someone’s reception!
Post # 7
@IrvingButterfly: I don’t think there is a such thing as weird. You have to do what is right for you, your budget, and your situation.
Post # 8
I would probably change, but that’s only because I’d be terrified of spilling pasta on my wedding dress. Last time my fiance and I had pasta at a restaurant I dropped my fork on the floor and managed to get red sauce all over my new scarf. Yep, I’m graceful like that.
PS: Your ceremony sounds really sweet.
Post # 9
I say march yourself right in there with your head held high in full regalia. If people want to stare let them, if they were decent they would send over a bottle of wine and congratulate you. Or you could see if they have a private room you could use.
Post # 10
@Clutterqueen: Love your response!
Post # 11
@Clutterqueen: +1 It’s your wedding day and I’d get all the use out of that dress that you can! Unless you’ll feel really uncomfortable!
Post # 12
@Clutterqueen: @beeberonibri: Omg I love your respones lol I just might keep my dress on now. I mean I do want to get all the wear out of it that I can.
Post # 13
Personally I wouldn’t head to Olive Garden with 21 people because most Olive Garden’s don’t do reservations, and their waiting areas can get really crowded. It would be worse in anything resembling a wedding dress because you’ll be cramped and crowded, possibly messing up the dress, and you’ll probably have a ton of strangers walking up to you and trying to be chatty. The chatty attention from strangers would be fun for a little while but would probably suck after the hour-plus I’d plan to wait for a 21-top.
Can you book a private room in a different restaurant and save your olive garden visit for a time when you have a smaller group?
Post # 14
Sounds really nice and sweet to me. I say keep the dress! It’s your day and if people think it’s weird then that’s their problem. I’ve seen Giants fans show up in their wedding day best at the ballpark and personally I thought it’s a pretty awesome thing to do; why not enjoy something you love with the people you love on your wedding day.
Post # 15
I think if you could swing a prive area or room, either there or somewhere else, that would be nice, and also make you feel a little more comfortable-</p><p>that’s what we had originally planned to do-only we were going to do the ceremony at the courthouse (23 of us close family) and then to our fave restuarant/sports bar (it was a little more upscale and they did host large private parties) but then our venue closed the private room we wanted :/ so we went full-on wedding style, reception venue and all. we are still doing our ceremony at a public park and hiring a retired officiant (cheaper) to do the wedding, and we still dont have a moh or groomsmen, his brother would stand up there w/us and my daughter. </p><p>not everyone has the budget for the big fancy reception and ceremony-and not everyone wants to go all out like that, so just whatever you do, embrace it and make your day special for you and your family 🙂
Post # 16
We were thinking of doing exactly this, but have the reception at a resturant that had a set up where we could be in a private room. I think if you can get a private room/area, I wouldnt be changing out of my dress 🙂 You only get to wear it once right 🙂