Post # 1
So I am (kind of) patiently waiting on my e-ring. But in the meantime, I have 3 friends who are getting married next year. One in July, one in Sept., and one in Oct. None of the girls are in the same circle of friends. There will be no one at any 2 of these weddings except BF and myself.
I have already ordered and purchased dresses for 2 weddings. One of the dresses is a black strapless dress for the July wedding. The girl getting married in Oct. has decided she wants all of us to pick black dresses in any style we want.
I had to pay $200 for the dress for July and would love to be able to wear it more than once. I am in grad school, living off loans, and am hoping to be getting married next year also. I jokingly said something to my friend about how I will already have a black dress and she seemed kind of shocked asking if I was, “..really going to recycle the dress.”
I don’t think it would be a big deal because it is a plain, simple, black strapless dress and they won’t have any of the same guests (not that any of them would remember the BM dress).
What do all of you think?
Post # 3
I don’t think it is tacky at all. I think it is good that you can get more than a one time use from the dress.
Post # 4
I’d totally wear it again! Ahh you shouldn’t have told the bride though. Don’t bring it up again lol maybe she’ll forget & you can get away with it!
I’d be 100% okay with my BMs using another dress worn in another wedding, as long as it met the criteria/ tied in with the other girls dresses 🙂
Post # 5
haha I know! I regretted saying it as soon as it came out of my mouth. I am going to keep quiet now though. I might have to fake shop with other BMs until then haha
Post # 6
If she hasn’t seen the gown, you could get away with it. Just pretend you just purchased it special for her wedding
Post # 7
fake shop with other BMs. lol wanna be my new BFF? That’s so awesome & something I’d totally do!
Post # 8
if i were the bride i’d encourage a recycled dress! especially if you spent that much money on it, it’s obviously a nice one! but obviously she wants a new one, so i would just lie. and don’t let her see pics of the other wedding.
Post # 9
Yeah, just don’t say anything more to her about it and maybe she’ll forget. I think this is perfectly fine. In fact my sister is MOH in my wedding and wearing “watermelon” and her BFF is thinking of watermelon for her wedding and my sister is planning on wearing the same dress!
Post # 10
If the bride has said she wants you to wear whichever black dress you want do you really think that one of the other BM’s is not going to wear her favourite black dress in her closet? 🙂 Go for it girl, you’re the only one who’ll ever know and you get to save some money in the bargain!
Post # 11
I’ve told my BMs to just find a knee-length purple dress, and I think it would be *awesome* if they could use a dress they already owned. I mean, isn’t that one of the points behind the whole “choose your own dress” concept?
Post # 12
I think that’s perfectly acceptable!
Post # 13
Wow, is the bride really that ridiculous? i told my girls, pick a black dress-if you own one, bonus points! My BFF owns one, so she doesn’t have to buy one, and I’m glad that it’s saving her money and she’s not going broke being a student and in my wedding! Yeah, don’t tell her. Or tell her you bought it specifically for her wedding, and wear it to the other one, since hers is first.
Post # 14
If I were a bride giving those guidelines I’d feel bad if you DIDN’T rewear the July dress! Go for it! As long as it meets the criteria, it is game 🙂
Post # 15
99.9% of former bridesmaids say they never wear the dresses again even when they are purchased with the intent to be re-wearable. So if you can and are willing to wear it more than once, then go for it. Most people probably won’t be aware that it was worn at someone else’s wedding, nor do you need to mention it.
Post # 16
where the dress you have already!! just wear different accessories.. that might make you feel a little better! lol