Is this okay to wear to a black tie optional wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It seems quite casual to me, but I’m certainly not a fashion or etiquette guru. I do like it but I wouldn’t wear it to a formal occasion.


Post # 4
2112 posts
Buzzing bee

It seems too casual to me as is. I think you’d need a jacket or something to dress it up to me

Post # 6
2112 posts
Buzzing bee

Sparklepop:  I mean, if you think its dressy enough then I’m not sure why you’re asking what everyone else thinks.

I personally think the pattern of the dress and the bandeau style cut of the top is too summer dress like, and seems casual.

Post # 7
44987 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


Sparklepop:  It’s a silk chiffon dress. It’s fine. I wouldn’t wear black over it though. I would pull out one of the beautiful colors in the dress and find a lightweight pashmina or chiffon wrap in that color.

Post # 8
1155 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Sparklepop:  It’s probably a tad casual but the ‘optional’ part of the dress code gives you room to play around. If it were me i’d team it with a white blazer – something to give it a bit of a formal edge 🙂

Post # 9
2126 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m not 100% convinced. I think it is a bit casual, but it could be dressed up like others suggested.

Post # 10
2005 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It’s a very nice dress, but as PPs have posted, it seems a bit casual for the occasion.

Post # 11
54 posts
Worker bee

I think it’s fine if you dress it up with accessories. 

Post # 12
2679 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sparklepop:  it’s a tad casual for black tie optional, but if you really want to wear it you should be fine. It certainly isn’t inappropriate, but you may feel a bit underdressed compared to some of the other guests. 

Post # 13
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Whilst the material itself might not be casual, the print is. It looks more like a beach cover up or sarong print.

Would it be a total faux pas to wear it? Maybe not, but I would go for something with a less casual vibe.

Post # 14
3040 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No way. It’s beautiful, but black tie optional doesn’t mean (either wear black tie or…anything else you choose). It means tuxedo and floor length gown OR a black suit…and a floor length gown. The dress you have chosen may be floor length, but it’s definitely not formal. If the rest of the guests are abiding by the dress code, I think you will stand out in a bad way. If you don’t care, then good for you. Also, for a piece of good news, most people don’t even know what they’re talking about when they specify a dress code. I’ve been invited to more “formal” or “semi-formal” events when the host actually had something more like “cocktail” or “after-five” in mind. If your hosts are normally not very formal people maybe no one will even notice that your dress doesn’t conform to the dress code specified on the invitation. Again, your dress is beautiful and I hope you get a chance to rock it soon!

Post # 15
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think the vibrant color and pattern is what is tripping people up. For a BTO wedding in Florida, I think it’s perfect with some dress shoes, an updo, and big ass earrings. BTO in NYC or Chicago? No way. But Florida? I think you’re good

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