Post # 1
So I have 3 weddings to go to this month, and this past weekend I went shopping for a dress. I ended up finding this really cute and classy dress on sale for only $10! Problem was the only one they had left in my size was black. So i bought it and figured I would just wear some brightly colored heels and jewelry with it.
I brought it home and showed FI last night and he said it looked like I was going to a funeral and I shouldn’t wear it. I asked a few other people and got mixed reviews.
I honestly didn’t think it was a problem, if someone wears black to my wedding I will not be offended. I always use a little black dress as my go to dress and assume others do also. I plan on pairing wit with a pair of pink heels and a pink chunky necklace that I have.
Is it acceptable to wear a black dress to a wedding? Would you be offended?
Post # 3
To me, ”little black dress” is a must, and no it’s not a dress you need only for funerals. It’s a dress that will be perfect for any formal event, be it a cocktail after the job, first date, job interview or wedding. It’s all in the accessories, which shoes, which jewelry, which handbag you’ll pair it with.
I would not be offended if my guests wore black, it’s elegant and it’s actually one of my favorite colors.
By the way, most men wear black suits (more than any other colors I think), why would this color be okay for suits and ties, but not for a dress ? 😛
Post # 4
I wouldn’t be offended at all – unless you were my mother or the groom’s mother! lol Where I come from, either of the mothers in black signifies that they don’t support the marriage. However I don’t think that applies to the other wedding guests.
Just to be on the safe side, you could add a little cardigan in a vivid colour. I think a cardigan does more to liven up a black dress than just accessories if you’re worried about looking too sombre.
Post # 5
@MsMeow: That is what I always thought. Only one’s who can’t wear black are the bride or grooms mother! I always thought it was okay for guests! I actually have a cardigan I was going to wear with it, but FI was concerned about when i take the cardigan off I will look like I am at a funeral, but he is also a man so I try not to take his opinion too seriously.
One of the weddings we are going to is at a super fancy, SUPER expensive venue, so I was also trying to go as classy as possible with the dress to. I felt like black covered that well.
Post # 6
@thefuturemrsD: I don’t think it’s offensive to wear black; nor would I care if anyone wore black to our wedding.
However, black is not a colour I would choose to wear to a wedding personally speaking.
Post # 7
My mom wore black. No biggie.
I wouldn’t bat an eye if anyone wore black to my wedding, or even white for that matter.
Post # 8
Unless its a drab suit I don’t think it’s an issue. In fact black is classic color for evening wear and it’s extremely versitale, by switching your hair, makeup, shoes and jewlery you will be able to look completely different esp because you van wear any color with black.
I admit to being bias because I love black!
Post # 9
@thefuturemrsD: I don’t think it’s weird at all! I love black and LBDs are always in good taste, IMO.
But I’m wondering if we are somehow in the minority? I’m considering having my BMs in black dresses and I’ve gottens some complaints from others, both inside and outside the bridal party.
Post # 10
The LBD will always look good regardless of the setting. It’s definitely wedding appropriate. The only exception I think would be something that actually looks funerary. Think Morticia Addams but less attractive. The pink accessories will definitely keep it upbeat.
Post # 11
I don’t understand the whole “don’t wear black to a wedding” the same way that I don’t understand the whole “don’t wear anything other than black to a funeral.” We had a couple of guests show up in black dresses and they looked great. On the other hand, I wore a pretty cobalt blue dress (my grandpa’s favorite color) to my grandpa’s funeral last year and got some comments that I was being “disrespectful.” Whatthefuck ever. As long as you don’t wear a shade of white (all white) or whatever color the bridesmaids are wearing, you’re fine.
Post # 12
At least half my guests wore a black dress. I cant imagine not being able to wear a LBD to a wedding!
Post # 13
Black is fine. I had a couple of ladies wear super skanky dresses. They warned me ahead of time and I was like , meh if you got it flaunt it. The best man actually told me that dancing with one of these ladies (who happended to be another groomman’s wife) gave him a boner. Um ok.
Post # 14
@lemiller: I actually went to a wedding a few years ago where the bridesmaids were in black dresses with brightly colored flowers, shoes and flower/belt on the dresses. I think they looked really cute! I know the bride had considered not doing it because people told her it was a no/no, but it ended up looking really cute.
I’m so glad that everyone else feels the same way as me! I love this dress and I was stressing out about whether or not I should return it.
@vorpalette: Oh don’t get me started. FMIL talked about me all day when I showed up with black slacks and a dark green shirt on for FI’s grandfathers funeral. FI’s Aunt told me that she told her she needs to approve what I wear next time, FI’s aunt told me and couldn’t belive how rediculous FMIL was being. She was so angry that I didn’t have all black on. I don’t see the problem with wearing a color it’s not like I had a rainbow shirt on. I don’t get the whole you cant wear this color to this and that color to that, I say wear whatever you want (just as long as you don’t wear all white to a wedding)
Post # 15
Miss Manners still says “no” to ladies wearing black to weddings. However, having said that, I will add that most people today not only are not offended by someone else wearing black to a wedding, but also they are not even aware of the historical prohibition against it. The bottom line is that some of those who know that ladies traditionally should avoid wearing black to weddings may be bothered by it, but your friends likely will not give it a second thought.
Post # 16
I’m thinking no one is going to wear a cocktail dress to a funeral, so I don’t ever get it when people make that comparison.
Sounds like the dress is good!