Post # 1
SO said his bachelor life seems to be increasingly unattractive because it means that he won’t get to have me in it. Then we talked some more and he told me we should get started on having kids soon (after I pointed out how old he would by the time they graduated from high school), and we’re not having kids before getting married.
Is this progress or am I just being unrealistically optimistic?
Edit: Yesterday he told me that we were a good couple, and that I’m becoming a bigger and bigger part of his life.
Post # 3
I don’t think he’s all set to propose tomorrow, but I’d definitely say this is some major progress. Your SO is coming to terms that life just wouldn’t be as great without you in it and that he needs you there. This is wonderful!
Post # 4
I agree! men sometimes move at a snail’s pace so it still may not be as soon as you want it to be… but it is definitely progress!! yay!
Post # 5
@Waitingtoexhale: Snail’s pace doesn’t begin to cover it for him. He took a YEAR to decide to buy a particular umbrella. I’m not even exaggerating – it may have been longer.
But yay for progress!
Post # 6
I know i have told you this many Times before but Your SO sounds so much like Fiance in that he’s so thorough and slow to a fault in making decisions with things. Your SO just may come through in extra slow snails pace. My Fiance is now taking his time trying to come up with a budget and approximate wedding date for next year. So now I’m waiting on that lol. But this is just him and he just has to ponder and think things through before making a decision on things. Overanalyzing galore! I’m just glad that he agreed to ttc before the wedding because of our ages!
Maybe you just have to wait just a bit longer but I’m hoping not too much longer!
Post # 7
@biochic75: Thanks for being such a good bee buddy through all this – when I’m blahers I read your PMs and they keep me sane. And yeah, it would be great if it isn’t much longer! Hope you both figure out a budget and date soon. =)
Post # 8
yes i think that sounds like progress 🙂
Post # 9
Yes I would definitely say that this is progress.
Darling Husband is also thorough to a fault at making decisions. When we were dating, I made it clear to him that I wouldn’t move in with him until we were committed to spend our lives together (my previous relationship, I lived with my bf and hated having to move out and divide assets and everything.. so I promised myself never again). So one day in December, I told him that I really wished that by the end of the year, we would decide whether or not we should move in – he asked if I expected to be engaged before moving in or if just the commitment sentiment was enough. I said I needed to be engaged. So we were engaged that night.
The reason I’m sharing this is that I realized that even though Darling Husband seems slow to make decisions, often the decision is already made but he’s slow to ACT on it. Me telling him exactly what I hoped for and when just made him realize that he had no reason to be waiting any longer and to just go for it, as he already knew in his heart that he wanted to be with me forever.