Post # 1
A destination wedding in NYC for around 20 people….$10,000? We’re open to brunch, lunch, dinner….Fridays, Sundays, or Mondays. We want a restaurant reception, no DJ or dance floor, some decor but I’m not picturing a huge ton.
I’m not sure if I’m being totally unrealistic. On top of it, we’re thinking about looking into a wedding planner since it’s a DW and we’re only planning on visiting the city twice (to look at venues and the actual wedding)…how much more should I add to the budget for a wedding planner? I was hoping for around a 3k max for such a small event but I really have NO idea.
Mainly, I cannot see spending too much more than 10k for an event for less than 20 people! It’s not like food & drink will be super expensive, we might just do a beer & wine bar with a signature drink again, to save money. I’m up for the money saving ideas, I just really want to stay around 10k lol
Post # 2
i am planning a destination wedding in NYC and am not hiring a wedding planner, did not even want to hire one. you can definitely cut costs by doing alot of your own research and contacting restaurants, etc!
$10k includes everything? Your hotel? Transportation? Food? Are you hosting a group activity? etc? or does this mean you’re willing to spend $500/per guest?
Post # 3
imnotorange: includes everything- dresses, flight, hotel, decor, flowers, cake, officiant, hair/makeup…i don’t even know what else lol I’m def not spending $500/guest on food & drinks!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
soontobemrsm11: Hm. It depends on if you are including accomodations and transportation. Will you pay for the bridal party’s lodging? Have you figured in the costs of *all* your accessories (this really added up for me). What about gratuity? Bar tab? I say this because I literally just had a 20ish person wedding a week ago in the Chicago suburbs. I did a Sunday 2pm ceremony followed by a luncheon. The venue seemed like a steal to me. I was one of those brides that never really had a budget, just bought what I needed here and there and didn’t really consider cost – *although I never really splurged on anything and made super sensible choices, like a $160 dress, $275 photographer (2.5 free hours of service wooot!) and a free cake.* Anyways, here’s my cost breakdown:
*Edited for weird formatting, thanks new WB!*
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<td width=”214″ height=”20″>Venue, Food, Gratuity 21 ppl</td>
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Venue, Food, Gratuity 21 ppl = $1360
Bar tab = $500.04
Hotel = $400.12
Dress = $162.99
Hair = $40
Tanning = $63
Nails = $40
Shawl = $31.99
Sweater = $29.99
Shoes = $89.99
“I Do” Stickers = $4.00
Crinoline Petticoat = $50.00
Thank Yous (bridesmaids) = $208
Makeup = $150
Brooch Bouquet = $240
Photographer = $275
Groom’s Attire = $175
Groom’s Coat = $100
Mom Thank Yous = $30
Garter = $22
Sash = $35
Earrings = $50
Groom’s Wedding Band = $17.99
Bride’s Wedding Band = $810
Groomsmen Gifts = $55
Officiant = $50
Marriage License = $18
Other Dress (oops) = $160
Cake = $0
Grand total = $5,168
Post # 5
soontobemrsm11: I would think it should be possible if you are flexible, not paying for everyone’s accomodation (that is going to be a large part overall I think) and the cost of flights from wherever you live. Also, it depends on where in NYC. Parts of Manhattan will be a lot more expensive, Brooklyn may be more affordable, etc.
I know people who have gotten planners for around $2k for really small weddings in large cities, so I’d shop around and see what you find, although I’m not sure having one is entirely necessary depending on your venue.
I think if you want to stick to $10k you really need to shop around and like I said before, be flexible! Good luck!
Post # 6
FutureDrAtkins: thanks for the breakdown! We’re just starting so I haven’t set a categorized budget, mainly I’m still trying to get an idea. If we stay way under budget I MIGHT pay for accomodations but I’m not sure. I’m not going to calculate it into the costs. I might pay for their dresses though, idk. It’s all still in the beginning and I know costs add up so quickly! My FI is convinced we can’t stay under 10. I think we can (hope!)
Post # 7
soontobemrsm11: i think you can definitely make $10k work for your whole wedding. it depends on what you “must” have at your wedding/reception and maybe what you’re ok dealing without…<br /><br />you can cut back on flowers. have your reception at a well decorated place. get married at city hall/central park. do your hair at a blowdry salon. get makeup done at mac. go to whole foods for a cake (delish). don’t have a wedding party. i don’t know how much airfare is. get hotel room block for a better rate.
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Post # 9
I definitely think its do-able but that also depends… like if you are planning on a $6000 dress then its going to be hard
I would try to use a budget like this as a guideline:
$2000 on food (about $100 per person inclusive which comes out to about $70 pp + tax & tip) – this is very reasonable for MANY restraurants especially if you were going to do a friday lunch or something like that. I would look into private dining rooms as 20 is an easy fit and you wouldn’t have to rent out a full restaurant
$1000 on booze including a champagne toast and wine with dinner (that breaks out to about $35 pp which is like 3 or 4 drinks)
$1000 on your attire — this is everything for you – dress, alterations, shoes, under garments, veil – every thing!!!! (that likely means that you dress needs to be <$500 unless you are luck enough for it to fit with no alternation needed)
$250 on his attire (sorry groom but life isn’t fair!!)
$500 flowers – nice bouquet for you, something for hubby and two or three arrangements for the tables
$100 cake (though I might talk to the restaurant about doing something non-traditional)
$1500 transportation0/ 2 night in a hotel – I hope that you live a cheap flight away (<$350 each)
$150 papergoods (STD, invites, thank you + stamps)
$300 city hall or outside ceremony (including officiant)
$250 beauty (hair, makeup, nails etc)
$500 transportation (10 p limo for 6 hrs)